My wife says I am anti-elder. I wonder why.

by easyreader1970 3 Replies latest jw friends

  • easyreader1970
    easyreader1970

    My wife says that I am anti-elder.

    Once my wife ratted me out to the elders because I got angry a couple of times during our earlier years of marriage and used a couple of "cuss" words. She told me that if I didn't go to the elders and tell them then she would.

    She gave me like a week or so and I didn't do it so she went. Next thing I know they were sitting us down in the "B school" so I could explain my wrongful behavior. What's funny about all that is this.

    Elder A's wife left him a couple of months later for a WOMAN. He would get married a couple of years later and then beat his new wife. They'd be separated shortly afterward.

    Elder B's wife was a stumbling alcoholic and his daughter would later get disfellowshipped for giving people blow jobs. Elder B would leave the congregation because he felt that the disfellowshipping was WRONG because it happened a year before it was discovered and had passed some imaginary statute of limitations.

    Later we would receive a shepherding call from two different elders. (Elder's C and D). I was informed by Elder C that I was a liar because I was not having a family study regularly enough and that I lied about my marriage vows.

    Found out later that Elder C had been disfellowshipped in the past for cheating on his wife and so had elder D. Both Elder C and D had daughters who fornicated and became pregnant.

    In the last congregation we were in, one of the more "popular" elders had many problems. He flirted and heavily openly with sisters, some of whom were married. He had unscrupulous business practices (he cheated people) and then when he was discovered he would change congregations. He would borrow hundreds of thousands of dollars from other well to do brothers and never pay them back. His last act at that congregation was to leave his wife of some twenty-five years for some younger office girl. His son (a ministerial servant) once cussed out his mother. (Witness or not, how does a father let a son cuss out his wife?)

    These are just a few of my more recent experiences with the elder body. My wife thinks that these people are legitimately spirit appointed people provided for our help. When I say that I don't need their help she thinks I am being anti-elder and anti-Organization. Her defense is that they are imperfect. My response, in question form, is: Then what makes them different from me? I can look up material in the Watchtower library CD just like they can.

    er

  • SnakesInTheTower
    SnakesInTheTower

    er1970...

    I used to be an elder and I am anti-elder...heh heh We were never appointed by any so-called holy spirit, thus our decisions were our own or the Organization.

    We had an elder in our congo who had been (and still is) a regular pioneer..for over 25 years. He is also (still) the Service Overseer (and at one time had been PO).

    A relative was at his house one time and used this elder's computer in the basement. Guess what the browser history revealed? Yep, PORN. Unbeknownst to his wife, he was surfing for porn.

    The relative told the elder that if he didnt confess to the elders he would turn him in. The elder went and confessed to the elder who studied with him eons ago. This was brought to the body of elders. I felt he should have been at the very least removed as an elder. The rest of the body decided to wait until the CO got there.

    During that meeting, it turned out the elder had been surfing porn "off and on" (his words) for two years!.... all the while having parts on assemblies, being used at quick builds. I was the only elder who had a bible out, the only one who had WT article out trying to reason if he should or should not be an elder and if he should be judicially dealt with. Little did I know the deal had already been sealed out on the golf course (this porn surfin elder played golf with the CO and PO)...... so not only was he not JC'd...he was not removed as elder or SO.

    Huh? And they want to know why I didn't play well with them in their sand box.

    Snakes ()

  • dawg
    dawg

    "would later get disfellowshipped for giving people blow jobs".... what's her phone number...

    I got disfellowshipped for fornication... I like fornication.

    One of the elders was asking all kinds of specific information, sort of creeped me out... He was later DFed for screwing young boy prostitutes on a really shady bad side of town... LOL!

  • no more kool aid
    no more kool aid

    They are in no way qualified to offer marital or family counseling look at their record and it's not just your congregation, same in my hall. My husband and I made a pact a long time ago when we were die hards that we would never tattle on each other to the elders. We felt if we had a problem so big we couldn't solve we would go to counseling, to someone bound to laws about confidentiality that we never have to see again. Not some unqualified goofball that's going to go and tell everybody about my personal life. It sounds like you have your hands full with your family right now. I wouldn't give them one minute of your time, showing you some scripture about how you should be doing more spiritually. Sounds like your wife should be thrilled to have an anti-elder!

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