any takers
did your congregation have any big secrets?
by badboy 7 Replies latest jw friends
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blondie
What's big? Hiding cases of child molesting........yes.
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AGuest
One of the former elders (and father of an elder), had a serious drinking and drug problem (as do many of 'em)... and would be sent away to rehab a couple times a year, with the announcement that he was "visiting family." Everyone bought this, including me, until my ex got caught up with him and another MS... drinking and doing drugs... (it was actually JWs who turned him out... and it was why I had to walk away in the end).
When I tried to "report" this (after a couple of very scandalous incidents where I was involuntarily involved, including a urinating on my pool table event, a fight in my garage, and another involving hookers and a motel where I had to go get the "brother" out myself, after my ex told me where he was because I demanded to know because his family called my house looking for him and was threatening to put out an APB on him...!)
Man, oh man - talk about Delilah, Jezebel, Mata Hari, and whatever other "evil" female has ever existed in history all rolled into one...
I still shake my head - the wives of these folks adamantly denied the incidents (although I personally drove these "brothers" home at these times because it was the "loving" thing to do... and because no one else had the cahones to do it!)... and the "sisters"... good, Lordy, you'da thought I had delivered up JC himself! I was the Judas Iscariot himself (hissss... boooooo!) - LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL! Please...
I had kept these events silent for some time and only "reported" it because the elder whose father was at the center of the issue decided to make my son (who was promoted to center microphone and assisting at the magazine desk at age 12) a target when his own son wanted center microphone after being recently baptized. The issue? Having nothing else, they made it my son's 1/2-inch flat-top haircut. I was flabbergasted. My son was heavy (after an extensive illness two years before) and a round cut made him look heavier - so I had them flatten it a little on top. One...half... inch. I know because I measured it so as NOT to cause a problem!
But, yep, this was an issue. However, elders, MSs and "brothers" drinking, doing drugs, and hanging out in motels with hookers apparently was not an issue. The hypocrisy overwhelmed me and so I broke my silence.
Unfortunately, my children paid for it: no more microphones at all for the boy (I was told that "although we think the brother is over-reacting [to the haircut], we want to ask you to accommodate him on this.") My daughter was later falsely accused by the sister of the wife of the former elder of sleeping with her son. My daughter was 15... and didn't even know her son. The woman later confessed, as we were going into the "kangaroo court" and not one moment before... that she had confused my daughter with some other girl, after overhearing a conversation between some young Witness girls.
We had the "kangaroo court" anyway, though, because although the woman admitted her mistake, the elder I spoke of earlier (whose father hung out with my ex), insisted that everyone hear from my daughter's mouth that nothing happened (by the way, my ex threatened to beat the living daylights out of him for it, later - ever see an elder shake in utter and total fear? I have.). I did, howver, ask the visitng CO to attend "court" in light of these "new revelations" and he did, much to everyone's surprise (apparently, that is not common). Imagine the "reaming" they all got when he found out that they had insisted the "court" continue, even though the woman had admitted, just before we convened, that she had the wrong child.
Secrets? Heck, yeah. Most folks would be surprised at how much drinking, drugs, hooking, and the like take place in that organization.
Ennyway... that's my contribution.
Peace!
A slave of Christ,
SA
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orangefatcat
I am not sure if you'd consider it a huge secret because I knew about because my ex came home from the service after working with the elders in the service and they had spoken of two families related. The Parents and the daughter and son in law, they were in business together and something went wrong and then all of a sudden they were not speaking to one another they no longer sat together and so my ex says yep they are fighting over the business failure. And the Parents are going to another cong. same hall differnt cong. Like this is private stuff and my ex is always telling me things the elders talk about.
Also there was two pedophiles in the same cong.
In one of the other cong. I was in also had a pedophile.
Three elders were deleted for embezelling money from other brothers and a company
Family member and elder accuses other elders of wrongdoing but he is the wrongdoer, committs incest with his children and neigh bourhood children That cong. was disolved.
Elder deleted for alcoholism
Elder who is dead now and is my dear ole daddy towards the end of his life i just recently found out was drinking heavily again, smoking and lying to all of us. He did this with two other brother one other was an elder as well , They all golfed together when this went on. Wow was I shocked to find out this just several months ago. And he had the nerve to ream me out at every chance he could.
Orangefatcat
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lancelink
usually it was personality clashes between the elders, sometimes it would be so noticable to certain ones,
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hillbilly
my little hometown congo ... pretty solid folks...you would want them for neigbors for the most part.
Across the river in MO.... party all the time... training ground for drama kings and queens.
Memphis... late 70's early 80's...secrets? we dont need no stinking secrets....what a bunch!
South Florida... while I was there I dont think the secrets were so much the problem... but you sure could disappear in plain sight ... no one really seemed to care who did what.
Hill
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badboy
BTTTT
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thepackage
We had 2 elders that liked going to Strip Clubs. I had an ideal but it wasn"t until i saw them, by accident that it was confirmed. I didn't say anything, just laughted. One of the edlers got caught by his wife but he did not rat out his buddy, who was on his "committee'. he got a slap on the wrist and after three years (i believe) was an Elder again.