Just gotta vent here. We're very close to a JW senior at my dau's HS. He hangs out here ALL the time. THey are just friends. THeir latest thing together has been watching all the old DIsney videos. LOL. THe guy is adorable, and i've gotten fairly close to him as well. -- The mom came knocking at our door a few months ago. I didn't know if she knew me or not, but i invited her and her associate back, and we had an 'interesting' long conversation. (I had been reading JWD for months, as well as other sources.) She just now found out i was the mom, and it's been my house he's been at all the time. Now suddenly, after months of him hanging here so much, she says he can't,accuses him of having a fling with my daughter (horrors!!) , etc. grrrr. They are REALLY just watching videos and talking!!!!!!!!! I can't imagine having a son who is such a good guy , smart, etc, and treating him that way!! :( It makes me wonder if at some point, this strategy will backfire big time, and he'll just give up and give her something to really worry about!! SHeesh!!!!!!!!!!!!
JW Teenager in moral danger at my house!!!
by AuntBee 7 Replies latest jw experiences
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Quandry
Very sad....I guess you could start a study if you could stomach it- you could ask some interesting questions that might make them squirm. I'm sure you have learned alot about JWs from this forum..
Then there might be a chance the boy could visit...supervised, of course.
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WTWizard
I suppose the real issue is having him hang out where one or both parents is an apostate. That could get the witless teen to associate with the apostate parent(s), which is to them even worse than the fornication issue.
Plus, they worry themselves sick about even the imagined threat of fornication, even where none exists.
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Jim_TX
"...she says he can't,accuses him of having a fling with my daughter (horrors!!) , etc. grrrr. They are REALLY just watching videos and talking!!!!!!!!! I can't imagine having a son who is such a good guy , smart, etc, and treating him that way!!"
This is sad, really. I remember growing up... and being so paranoid of gals - and also having to remember to not look like I was showing interest...
I think that was part of the reason I pulled within myself. If I couldn't talk with them... why talk to anyone?
This poor fella is going to go through he** in the next few years... if not longer - unless he takes the easy way out - just marry the first JW-female that walks by.
Regards,
Jim TX
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boyzone
Plus, they worry themselves sick about even the imagined threat of fornication, even where none exists.
Yep, thats probably it.
When my 2 eldest boys were teenagers I was so uptight about everything. Who they hung out with, who they were friends with, what they watched, what they listened to etc. Even a slight sniff of a female on the horizon made me launch into a frenzy of panic imagining they were at it at every opportunity. The lectures I gave those poor boys, oh lordy lordy!!
In reality I probably pushed so hard that they hot footed it outta the WT the first opportunity they got. (thankfully).
Lets hope this young lad you know does the same.
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lancelink
There was an elder at my old hall,, his name if I remember correctly was J. Renfrow.
he was the local pedophile ,,always talking to, and getting cozy with ALL the early teenage girls.
If any young guy (excuse me a spiritual capable young man) walked into his group he would always make the girls doubt as to why the guy(s) were there.
He made it seem like anyone he did not personally "approve" of was a perverted sex offender. He did that to my son once at a picnic,I wish that I had some guts back then,(he was an elder, me,, just a common publisher)I would have thrown it right back at him as to why he was always around the younger girls.
This elder was the absolute worst one that I ever met (30 years worth)
I wonder if he ever got caught and labeled as a "sex offender" in the real world, that would have been a wonderful thing!
But,, since the JW's are bleeding capable brothers he is probably still in his position, protected by D.Redman, the WTS
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dinah
Oh, I feel for that boy. He was just enjoying having a friend.
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no more kool aid
This mother is nuts. This coming from someone raised JW and a mother. A lot of the dysfunction within the organization between men ans women stems from never being permitted to be near one another unless they were considering marriage. I believe that boys and girls learn so much about the opposite sex in a positive way through little innocent friendships like this. I hope is still allowed to come to your home, it's probably the highlight of his existence.