by Newborn 8 Replies latest jw friends
a thought of compassion and love from me. I can't imagine how extremely difficult that must be to deal with, loosing your children and how much that must hurt every day!!
I've lost my only sister now since being disfellowshipped y-day and it breaks my heart. (What an evil method - may they burn in ......)
How do you deal with your grief? Do we have any choice but to accept it?
Hugs to you All and may you find strength..
/Newborn
(((((hugs)))))
In one way or another we have all lost a piece of our lives or family due to the religion.
My family disowned me before I faded. I reckon if I was disfellowshipped I may have more contact with them!
mtsgrad
NB....
I'm sorry about your sister.......mine doesn't have contact with me either(unless it benefits her)...
All I do is remember is that it's HER choice not mine...although that makes me irritated too......time helps...and you never know about the future.....
AND I'm waiting for my chance to tell her and her idiot husband exactly what I think. But out of respect for my parents, it'll have to wait....
hang in there...the best revenge is to live well in spite of them.....then it's proven that those of us that leave the organization can function and not lose ourselves.......
Mandette
Nice thread. Thank you. I have 2 daughters 21 and 20 , the oldest I've seen once in almost 3 years , the youngest once 3 years ago because of the witness cult. Fortunately my som, almost 24 is out, and we are close. But it hurts like hell because I was very involved with my daughters lives when they were teenagers. I was a dad who took them clothes shopping, spent time taking their boyfriends and them on camping trips to the mountains ; but that all ended in late 2003 when I stopped going to meetings becoming inactive - because of unjust treatment by the elders - actually I finally saw the real " light " about the witnesses.
I won't give up. I won't accept that the rest of my daughters life they will be in a mind control cult. It's not a question of if one of them gets out, but a question of when. I just have to be patient. I am trying to implement some of Steve Hassan's tactics of how to gradually get your loved ones out of " cult mind control". I feel in time my older daughter will get out , but it will take time to break through the mind control. Perhaps with my son's ( their older brother's ) help he and I can work as a team gradually reaching out to my daughters. I care too much to not try to help them
The situation is heartbreaking for all of us. But I also know that, consciously or unconsciously, members of high control groups, like the WT, do want to be free. There is a deep desire in all humans to have a healthy and happy life. To the extent that the WT harms and abuses its own members, they will lose in the long run.
The pain you experience is also experienced by your JW family and can eventually lead them out too. You have given a gift to your family by choosing to leave, as this opens the door for them too. Only they can decide to go through it, but statistics show a large percentage (over 60%) of JWs eventually leave. This is good news for those of us who have loved ones still in the organization.
As was already mentioned, Steven Hassan has much good advice. His two books, "Combatting Cult Mind Control" and "Releasing the Bonds: Empowering People to Think for Themselves" are well worth reading and give much good advice on how we can help people get out of cults. I got my copy of Releasing the Bonds from the Free Minds website.
Flipper, thanks for sharing your story. There's hope.
Mrs. Fiorini, thanks for the book tips and comfort.
Thanks to all of you!
Sorry about your sister.newborn,,,I have lost a daughter,& a grand-daughter ,,,, but divide a conquer is the WT trade mark... ( for now)
I've lost 3 children because of the so called truth, 2 won't have anything to do with me BECAUSE my wife is firmly in the truth.
The other child died whilst in the truth.
I never see my Grandchildren either, BUT I am not an active JW
A strange world!
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