Geographic Cure

by rebel8 4 Replies latest jw friends

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  rebel8

  A geographic cure is when someone moves away to escape their past in some way.

  The optimal type of geographical cure is after the necessary internal changes and progress in healing have been made--essentially to escape the things/people in your surroundings that trigger negative emotions or behaviors in you.

  The unhealthy type of geographical cure is running away in an effort to avoid doing the necessary healing work and make changes in oneself.

  Interested in your thoughts as it applies to healing from jwism. Thanks.
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  Alpaca

  It's a wonderful thing that we have this option.

  Can you imagine living in Salem, Massachusetts with no where to go?

  I stayed for a couple of years in the area where I lived after I bailed on the BORG. Eventually, it was time for some changes. So, I made some very dramatic changes (geographic and others) all at once. Moved 1200 miles and went back to school on a mission to change my life. It worked and I've never been happier.
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  rebel8

  The Google ad showing right now is "Candida Cure". LOL
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  Scarred for life

  I've never heard that term "geographic cure" but I guess I'm a classic case of it. And based on your description I would put myself in the "unhealthy" category.

  I left my homestate to escape JWism and all the family tensions and resentments and misunderstandings that had arisen from it. In addition to that my father had died very suddenly. I left about 16 months after his death.

  My mother and sister and I never did the healing work that needed to be done due to our JW experiences and my father's sudden and shocking death. The combination of the two was just too much for us to ever talk about. And, of course, that drove us apart and we were never close.

  My mother died in May with our relationship never being close or really knowing one another as adults. I'm sorry to say that my sister and I bring out the absolute worst in each other and just the mention of her name triggers negative emotions in me and destructive behaviors. The same seems to be true of her. We have a contract on my mother's house and she and I are not even attending the closing because we can't stand the sight of each other. I will be going up about 2 weeks early to get the last of the furniture out of my mother's house and I am going to the attorney's office that day to sign the documents.

  But all that being said, my life in Georgia has been the best years of my life. I have a wonderful husband, 3 great, unique, and independent children and friends that I would never have had if I had not moved here. I have had a couple of different careers. I have many, many blessings and many things to be thankful for. And I don't believe any of that would have happened if I had not moved away and started my own life separate from my blood relatives.
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  purplesofa

  I feel like I am the Queen of the Geographic Change Cure!!!!

  I moved alot as a kid, and have carried it over to my adult life.

  Although I have landed quite some time in some places, I think eight years the longest,

  I have been a gypsy roving about. I seem to always think re-locating is great for what ails you.

  Some problems stay behind, some tag along.

  I seem to always wind up where I have tried to leave, Arkansas.

  This time back , I can finally face some of my deeper fears and demons.

  I suppose I have come full circle.

  I have learned some things along the way and grown to be able to handle

  some of these deeper issues.

  purps