The perfect spouse

by easyreader1970 7 Replies latest jw friends

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  easyreader1970

  Some of you are in dream marriages and some of you are in or have been in marriages from the pit of hell. My question for today, boys and girls, is: Have any of you had a spouse that has never been wrong, ever, in life? To hear them tell it, that is.

  Anything that is wrong is not their fault (but most likely yours). Anything that isn't working right is due to something you did or didn't do. Furthermore, the world would be a better place if everyone was like them. They've never had to apologize (to you or anything else) for anything, because they've never done anything wrong.

  I just wanted to know if I was married to the only perfect person or if others have been also.
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  Robdar

  My ex husband was absolutely perfect. Why even his farts smelled like perfect cherry blossoms. Just ask him.

  I had a perfectly hellish existence with him. Getting a divorce is in the top 5 list of the best things I have ever done.
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  SixofNine

  Why do you think she sees herself and the world this way?
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  easyreader1970

  @SixofNine

  Well part of the reason is her blind adherence to the WBTS. When she was a child, her father was a sometimes-Witness and her mother didn't have alot of time for her. So even as early as 8 or 9 years old, she was always studying and reading the Bible and this makes her a better person than people who didn't "have that love." It certainly makes her better than me and my screwed up priorities because I don't hang on the WBTS's every word. She was a pioneer, and sacrificed this or that to be a pioneer.

  But that's spilled over into everything else unrelated to the JWs. She's a better parent than everyone because she's a JW parent. She's a better worker than everyone because she's a JW worker. If she sees someone not working like a slave on her job she's a threat to tell them to do better or she'll report to management. This is her JW responsibility.
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  SixofNine

  ahh... well if she is just an idealogue/true believer who hasn't been punched in the gut by life yet, there may be hope. The reason I asked is that there are people who would fit into the description you provided in your first post and yet would not begin to fit the description you provided in your second post; as their life is anything but filled with effort to do/be "better". They simply have personality disorders that keep them from being self-aware and/or truly empathetic (they may feel sorry for someone else, but they define that other person's problems on their terms). Unfortunately, they seldom become aware that they have a problem and so are very resistant to treatment.
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  zagor

  Anything that is wrong is not their fault (but most likely yours). Anything that isn't working right is due to something you did or didn't do. Furthermore, the world would be a better place if everyone was like them. They've never had to apologize (to you or anything else) for anything, because they've never done anything wrong.

  Haha, yup you could say that again. Doesn't have to be only marriage but any kind of relationship with people can easily fit this. I've learned my lesson with that one alright. Sometimes you are being a gentleman and don't want to point something obvious to them hoping they would be able to see it. Unfortunately, people like that are so full of themselves that they interpret that as a sign of your stupidity and their superiority. It is one of those 'close encounter of the third kind', only thing missing in it is background music from The Twilight Zone
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  crapola

  Hey, I'm married to him. He has never apologised for anything because he's never wrong. Everyone at his job seems stupid to him. Unless you agree with everything he says or thinks, then you are wierd. All things wrong with our marriage are my fault. He's the most perfect man I've ever had the pleasure of knowing. (GAG) Right now as I type this he is on the other computer looking at pornography. Has been for 4 hours!!!My life with him is great.I hope you all can sense the sarcasim.
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  patchwrk

  I am also married to one of these people. I knew something was wrong with our relationship, but I didn't know exactly what. I began to research the matter and found out that all of his charateristics were found in people who have narcissistic personality disorders. That personality disorder and beiing a JW for 57 years are two whammies that makes a hell on earth.