What do you consider to be the prime friend-making years

truthseeker

I would definitely say that the prime friend-making years are at school and college. After that it slows down dramatically.

For those that were born into the truth and left the organization, it is infinitely harder to find and keep friends. The loss of all JW social contacts leaves just the workplace as a starting point, and if you happen to work for yourself you don't even have that.

That's why I value this forum because having left the JWs I have met a couple of people on here who I have met in person - we all share a common experience.

It takes courage and a willingness to seek out new friends, wherever they may be.

oompa

for sure.....high school and college...........and they last..........oompa......btw i only know this from facebook.....

Simon

I disagree. Research has shown that there is a limit to the size of your 'close friend' network which explains why you could come to the conclusion the the prime time for making friends is high school and college when many people probably fill up their quota so to speak.

However, if you don't have many friends (because the ones you had suddely shun you because of the WTS policy) then it is possible to make new friends at any time in your life.

I've got some great friends now that I made quite recently. It means you have to open up to people and put some trust in them which is quite a scary thing to do after your previous "friends" let you down badly ... but it's well worth it.

shopaholic

I agree with Simon.

You have to just put yourself out there. Did you ever informal witness to folks? If so, do the same now but only about yourself or something that you have in common with others.

Its very scary at first because you may feel that everyone is out to lead you into a life of "sodom and gomorrah". Then you realize that most people are quite decent and that JWs don't have the monopoly on morality...which is often important if you were raised a JW.

It just takes time...

Satanus

Come to find out that the friends i made after exiting are wierd or users, always waiting for something to fall off the table, so to speak. They are hard to get rid of. Looking for quality firends, now. 'Course, there's always the possibility that they won;t want to.

S

Farkel

"What do you consider to be the prime friend-making years

The first year would be the year you leave the WT. It's impossible to have any real friends before that.

The next year is every year after that until you die.

Farkel

wha happened?

I would say, anytime while u are still breathing

OUTLAW

Simon and Farkel have it!..I have made wonderful friends through out my life............Satanus makes a good point..But..That lesson teach`s you how to chose friends..........................;-)...OUTLAW

Bubblie

We were all taught how to talk to strangers by the Borg. Before I was a witness I had many friends from high school, then from work. I made some friends as a dub that have stuck around for years even after leaving. But you can make friends anytime in your life. Join some groups and ask how they got involved in the group. It is simple to make friends just hard getting out to do it. Many of us become less trusting after our experience with the wt. There are lovely people out there who need friends and some you can live without. You'll find your way of finding new friends if you really want to just get out there. Go on a local meet up.com to check for things you have an interest in and go to something. Become an organizer for one of the things you like. Get your own group together.

Kit

loosie

High school definately.

What do you consider to be the prime friend-making years

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