Clyde and I recently got an invitation to a golden anniversary given by the daughter of a couple that I helped bring into the "truth." I was a little surprised because the daughter is DF'd and so is her brother, but I thought, "Good, I'll go to this!"
Well just this week I got a call from one of my best friends who is the sister-in-law of this couple. She and her husband seldom go to meetings, but they are friendly with everybody. She said that the party was cancelled because her brother-in-law said he would have to walk out of the house if the daughter showed up. My friend decided to have the golden anniversary party at her house instead. I was floored! I didn't know what to say, so I said I would change it on my calendar, but didn't say we'd be there. Clyde has already stated he will not attend, but I know there will be hard feelings as both couples have a special place in their hearts for us and we for them.
This is the second incident just this week that I know about involving the (mis)treatment of disfellowshipped relatives. I know that book about "Keeping Yourselves in God's Love" has a lot to do with it--although it was only a reminder from previous directives. I think of how the Bible says to "honor your father and your mother." The daughter was trying to honor them by giving them a party. What a real slap in the face!
BTW, the reason the daughter was DF'd was because her husband was living with another woman. She divorced him and remarried, but failed to give the elders proof. That's a whole different subject.