Undoing years of damage caused by the deceit of Watchtower ideology
isn't easy. I'm still adapting to "seeing the world anew" and
dealing discreetly with relatives and friends. I am able to
transmit a few suggestions I've found helpful in this difficult
process:
1) Reach out to your non-Witness relatives and associates. Treat
them the way you should have treated them all these years. Send
a card or a present once in a while - even celebrate the holidays,
if you can get away with it. Learn to love - again. If you are sincere
and try hard, you may be surprized at how forgiving 'worldly'
people can be - make a conscious effort to let go of the obsessive
judgementalism that marks Witness life. Take a walk thru a shopping
mall and tell yourself "these people are no different from me,
they have just as much right to life and happiness as I do".
2) Get an education, if you need one. There are plenty of non
traditional ways to get a degree or training. Look at Charter
Oak in Conn. or Thomas Edison College in New Jersey. BYU offers
excellent courses for about $100 a credit. Using spare time this
way helps with the healing - after decades of feeling guilty,
beaten-down, "never good enough as a Witness" - it is wonderful
to feel tears of joy roll down your cheek while Pomp and
Circumstance is playing - and you get handed your diploma.
They can take away your house and repossess your car, but a
good education is yours forever, period!
3) Treat your own life with kindness and love - You don't
have to become wanton and deranged just because you gave up
the "truth". Why waste your body with smoking, drugs or unsafe
sex? Success is the best revenge. What effect will it have on
your zombified Witless relatives if your LIFE and HEALTH improves
after years of emotional degradation? Get a subscription to
Life Extension magazine (www.lef.org) ADD SOME years to make up
for what was wasted. I kid you not, REAL treatments for aging
are close at hand - stay informed!!
4)Know that the world is changing rapidly - for most people,
there has never been a more exciting or interesting time to
be alive. We are entering an age of miracles - in time, by learning
to personally adapt NOW, you may pave the way for your tired
Witless relatives and friends to throw off their stupifying,
deadening chains of Watchtower misrule.
The future can be your friend
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