I was born in and left the religion as soon as I left home at 18. I had to move 70 miles away from my family and friends to do a 'slow fade'. I lock the thoughts of how I was brought up, the religion itself and the failed prophecies away because I get wound up and distressed if I dwell on it too much. Stupid I know but I cannot get rid of it. I was doing well until recently.
My Grandmothers 100th birthday is coming up and my Dad, an elder, has told my Mum, that she cannot attend, not even to pop in for 30 minutes for the family photo. My Uncle (worldly) had rung my Dad up to ask permission for Mum to come, he respects the JW view on birthdays even though he does not understand it but mentioned that as it is such an achievement to reach 100, that surely Mum could pop in when all the family are there to say hello. Not sing happy birthday, no card or present, just be there, say Hi and leave. It is still a no. The family now have an opinion of JWs that is unprintable. My Grandmother was in tears and my Mum, who is not rigid in the faith and never has been, is also upset. I am also upset as its brought the frustration of the stupidness and pain this religion can cause back to me. Why can JWs not see that this sort of attitude looks intolerant, exclusive and arrogant, do they not care what worldly people think of them or is it fear of repurcussion from the rest of the 'flock'? Dad wanted me to go out to see them both for lunch before me and my family went off to see my Nan but I have said it is not possible as to see them and then leave without them coming with us was too much for me. I did not give my Dad a reason on why I was not going to meet them for lunch, just that I could not make it. Am I wrong to feel that way?