Did you ever had someone not speak to you for years because of a grudge?

asilentone

Did you ever had someone not speak to you for years because of a grudge against you? As the years passed by, did you make up with that person and become friends again? Do you know someone that has that kind of experience? I would like to hear about it. Thanks!

Scully

I'm living it.

And no, I will not allow any picking up where we left off, or forgiveness for their behaviour. I did nothing wrong to deserve this. I'm better off without @$$holes like that in my life.

happpyexjw

Yes, two of my brothers. I got sick and tired of their wives meanness and said so. Since then, we aren't speaking. I reached out to the younger one recently and he said we should leave things as they are. It's sad, but I can live with it.

Scarred for life

My sister has nothing to do with me. I don't know the reason. I have asked her and she says something vague like I was mean to her as a child. I have no idea what the real reason is but I have suspicions.

I also feel that I have done nothing to deserve this. I think she is unhappy with herself and the decisions that she has made in her own life. She has no friends that I know of . So I am just one more person that she has nothing to do with. It's very sad.

But I go on with my life here in Georgia. I have a wonderful husband and 3 children (all of which my sister does not have). I also have my in-laws as family. And I have friends, not a ton but I have a few good ones.

My advice is go on with your life. Do things that make YOU happy. You can't control the other person.

digderidoo

My nan and my uncle haven't spoke since my Grandfather's death in 1975. It really began with my nan not liking his wife, she did used to treat him bad. He left her the once, she said to him if you going to go back to her then i want nothing to do with you. There was a few family arguments at the time involving my uncle, which added to this, and since then they haven't spoke.

It was my nan's 90th about 3 months ago and my uncle was thinking of attending. I think he wants to do something before it is too late. They are both stubborn, so neither will speak first. The longer it went on, the harder it got for both of them. They have acknowledged each other once in that time, at a family party, by saying hello, this was about 15 years ago.

They both attend family parties, we are a large family so they keep apart. My nan did come to our house once whilst my uncle was there about 15 years ago, around the same time that they acknowledged each other. They both sat in the same room and didn't speak, after a couple of minutes my uncle got up and left.

I remember my uncle inviting her to his silver wedding anniversary in 1990, she refused to attend.

It is a shame for them both, my nan is now 90 and my uncle around 68, they have missed so much not speaking for 34 years, but that's the way it is between them.

Paul