How do you stop a Dub preaching at you,in a nice way?

wobble

I ask for my Sister in Law. she grew up in the Dubs,never baptised,left in late teens.

She is now carer for her mum who is a lifelong Dub with dementia. A nice old Bro. picks Mum up for the Sunday meeting and returns her,gets asked in for a drink and a chat,he then starts to ask my S.I.L why she is not in the troof.

She replied "Because I'm not, and I don't wish to discuss it" he then carries on for about an hour with why his faith is strong etc.

I know I could give my S.I.L questions she could give the old fart that would demolish his faith, but I don't want to do that,and she feels that as he is kind to Mum she cannot be rude to him.

So how can she stop him in a nice way ?

Any advice will be much appreciated,

Love

Wobble

straightshooter

That is difficult. Some members are so entrenched that nothing can stop them. I remember a long time ago working in field service with a brother who would talk to anyone about the message. Unfortunately the only way to stop him was to either accept what he was offering or be extremely unpolite and kick him off the property. The truth eventually drove him crazy and he went down the street yelling out that Armageddon was here! The police had to drag him away to a mental hospital. I never saw this brother again.

If the brother is at all polite then your s.i.l. would be able to change the topic to a nonreligious subject like, "Did you know that they are developing a car that will run on compressed air?" Faithful jw are taught to change all topics to God's Kingdom, therefore select a topic that is difficult to connect to their message. Then know as much as you can about the subject(s) to keep control of the conversation.

VIII

Tell her to tell him that the two things NOT to talk about are:

1. Religion

2. Politics

If he wants to continue a conversation about say, LCD or Plasma screen TVs, great. If not, tell her to tell him she is busy, don't offer him a drink and open the front door in an invite to LEAVE.

Honestly, she is opening herself up to this crap. Plus, this JW is getting free Witnessing time, sitting on his ass, preaching to her. He is, no doubt, counting his 1 hour of time on his time card.

She needs to stand up for herself and realize that since this dweeb is taking advantage for his gain in Field Service time it is doing nothing for her.

BTW, there is no nice way to tell a JW to stop preaching. A door slammed in the face is about the nicest way I recall.

Vachi 8 He Is

You tell them to read the lyrics of the song "Numb" by Linkin Park and to apply it to the situation. And if that doesn't work you can go full on Clint Eastwood and tell them to "Get off my lawwwnnn!"

cameo-d

Wobble: A nice old Bro. picks Mum up for the Sunday meeting and returns her,gets asked in for a drink and a chat,he then starts to ask my S.I.L why she is not in the troof.

What about a quick "thank you for bringing mom home"... at the door! Then tell mom...don't take your coat off we have to go over to (such and such) right now. Lock the front door in front of them, take mom by the elbow, escort her to sil car and then drive.....where? to the grocery store? Ice cream parlor? who cares. If mom has dementia, she won't remember what the ride was for anyway. She had a nice time, SIL got out of listening to Bro. flapping lips, and you didn't have to be unkind.

Billy the Ex-Bethelite

Wobble,

I agree with cameo100. There is no need to be rude. There is no need for a drink and a chat when the only thing to chat about is dubstuff.

She replied "Because I'm not, and I don't wish to discuss it" he then carries on for about an hour with why his faith is strong etc.

Trying to get the old gent to talk about something else is like telling a dog to quack. He just can't do it.

B the X

Robdar

Ask him to stop it. If he doesn't comply, walk away. If he follows and still wont let you be, scratch your butt and ask him to smell your finger.

Seriously though. I used to think that I shouldn't be rude to others when they were imposing on me. And all I got for my efforts was a lot a pawing and pestering.

I have learned people will only annoy you as long as you let them. If you have exhausted all other methods, be rude. Or, act psycho. Either way, the annoyer will leave you to find somebody "nicer" to pester.

Robdar

he then carries on for about an hour with why his faith is strong etc.

In re-reading your post, I got the answer: the preaching wasn't for the benefit of your sil, it was for his benefit. There is a saying: "Keep talking and you might convince yourself. "

Disregard my previous advice and do not ask him to smell your finger. Tell him how impressed you are with his faith and firmly show him to the door.

Finally-Free

In a JWs mind being nice only serves to leave a door open for further preaching. I would say, "Go count your time with someone who gives a damn."

W

How do you stop a Dub preaching at you,in a nice way?

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