Your version of a Loved one who left the Troof

by homeschool 5 Replies latest jw experiences

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  homeschool

  We all have our stories about how & why WE left. But every story has at least two sides. There are so many people on here who say they were so strong in the jw faith, but then something (or many little things) started to not add up. Can you tell the story of someone you loved, whom you NEVER thought would leave the jw's, did? How were you an influence? Lookin' for success stories here...How'd you get 'em out?

  When my husband & I met, he was a jw. He had it in his mind that he would show me the light and make me come back to the troof. I had no idea this was his scheme. Turns out, the way the elders, rank & file, and even my own family treated him and me after we started dating, it showed him just how unloving they can be. Not sure when his "lightbulb" moment was, though. He always had an issue with the blood doctrine change.

  Now your story....
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  oompa

  ask him then please dammit!!!!............then tell us when his light-bulb moment went off......i am totally unsuccessful with my wife and son, but after three years of one son being dfd...i say the light.....i never shunned him.........nor his brother, mom, and step mom........but i have yet to wake another, but i have come damm close me things.......seeds planted..........oompa
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  truthseeker

  I never thought my wife would leave. She was a regular pioneer, a die hard witness. Not being raised in the truth, she had all the eagerness of wanting to do more and more.

  She did notice little things here and there that bothered her, but they were not enough to make her seriously question the faith.

  Admittedly, I didn't exactly drip feed her with information about the religion. I did give her too much information at once and she shut down.
  She eventually saw the light and we mutually agreed to fade.

  She began to notice more the little things, well big actually, after we faded. Her friends weren't as unconditional as she was led to believe, she noticed that I was ignored at the meetings by the elders.

  She also realized that her bible study conductor was using her to count her time and keep it going.
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  homeschool

  Ya know, I'm embarrassed to say, I don't actually even know what the lightbulb moment for my best friend was. She knew that I had doubts and that I left...she always gave me unconditional love regardless. She was married to a jackass at the time, that much I know for sure. I will let you know what the lightbulb moment for my hubby and my bestie were. Now who have YOU known whose left the Troof? I'm so curious!
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  homeschool

  Well, haven't talked to my friend, but my hubby says it was a bunch of little things. Mainly the "new" blood doctrine and disfellowshipping rules. For me, it was a bunch of little things too. I was publicly reproved and it was the most humiliating thing ever. Years of people telling me how 'worth it' I am even though I love to beat myself up over over stuff.

  My friend married a guy who knows the bible better (non jw) than anybody I've ever known. While I'm skeptical about the 'truth' of the bible her new hubby seems to have a pretty great interpretation- even with the stuff I dont give a flip about.

  Truthseeker...I really like your wife & I plan on continuing our friendship. She's the real deal.
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  Psychotic Parrot

  I don't know hardly anyone else who has left

  Just a couple of people who i don't see anymore, & they only left cause they couldn't be arsed with it anymore, they probably still think it's the truth

  Oh wait no, i had one friend who i now live about 100 miles away from, he left after reading a few books on the illuminati & realised that even the most crazy conspiracy theories don't involve j-dubs, thus rendering them utterly irrelevent