A few weeks ago my father started coming by and dropping off fruit for the kids. Most times when he would come by I wasn't home. Then a couple of weeks ago my father stopped by at about 7:30am and invited me to breakfast at IHOP with my mother. I accepted and took my oldest son. It was pleasant, my father only got in one dig and I didn't respond to the bait. After that my parents called and asked if they could take the kids out to a movie. I said fine and the kids went. My parents just got back from a cruise (I didn't know they had went) and my father calls me up on Tuesday and says that we need to communicate better. Now what my father means when he says "communicate" is he gets to spout off and say whatever he wants whether it's true or not and mostoften hurtful and I just have to take it. But again I didn't rise to the bait, I let him say his piece and hung up the phone. My mother calls yesterday and said that I had been on her mind. She knew my father had called and she mentioned that she wanted to call me too. My father said what for? Josette is a lost cause. My mother said she was not of that opinion and really wanted to start talking to me again. We had a good conversation. I'm cool with all this, well not so cool with my father but what can I do? I'm willing to work on getting us back to close to how we used to be (I was always closer to my mother than my father which is funny cuz my mother can drive me crazy) with boundaries in place. It's gonna take time.
Oh, I think I have some inkling on why my father is acting like he is now...he's going to pioneer next month.
Josie