There are always one or two outstandingly idiotic people in any cogregation.
There is always someone who never gets ill, needs only 3 hours sleep, works fulltime and pioneers and never understands why others arent doing the same .
There always the hall big mouth who says stupid things to people like "you look so much better now with that new haircut , you looked so old/worldly/ugly/fat whatever before"
Of course there the woman who said to my wife when she desided to go home after an hour on the ministry "well I cant see the point in just going for an hour".
One of the elders, Johnny. To this day I get nauseous (sp) just thinking about his face with his oversized nose. This is the same man who beat me with a stick in the KH, he said nasty things to me, would call me up when I was home alone to call me a whore, and yet those things weren't as bad when compared to this last statement: My son was born. He was in NICU. Johnny knew that. I was devistated when I had to leave my newborn, firstborn baby in the hospital. I went to the sunday meeting the next morning with pillow in hand (boy was I sore) and as I was getting into the car afterwards so that I could spend the rest of the day with my new baby, Johnny Elder comes up to me and says, "Why didn't you bring your son to the meeting? What kind of mother are you?" Him knowing full well where my son was and why.
When I found out that this man has had contact with my children when they visit my mother's home, I told her that I would move half way across the world if I had to to keep that man away from my children. That didnt go over too well. I wouldn't say that I love him less, I despise this man and I'm not yet ready to forgive him and I don't know if I ever will be able to.
They'll let anyone be an elder it seems.
Shelly Former victim and recovering wonderfully from a broken spirit Smile, because we all have been freed from slavery!!
Sorry about what happened Shelly! I guess they appoint some elders by "broken" spirit instead of holy spirit. In your case he may have been voted in because of patronage or worse, he may have given favors to another elder(s) so he can be appointed and be part of their political boys club... I hope you're now as far away as possible from this man!
Well this isn't near as bad as Sweetone's experience but still ticked me off...
We had been inactive for a few months and were finally talked into going back to the meetings...first thing this one sister says to me is...wow have you put on weight? I was like...uuuummm no I don't think so...lol she then insisted that I had...and called on others to confirm my increased weight gain...needless to say I missed a few more meetings after that....
lol oh and then one time when we moved to a new area and went to the hall for the first time an elder commented to us "I hope you aren't going to be a burden on the congergation." We weren't...we just quit going...
We all have memories of the borg that we care to forget. But to move ahead with life, we all must face them and overcome them.
I think it's terrible the way that such a "loving people" treat each other and then are praised for it. I personally would've slapped someone who insisted that I had gained weight when I in fact hadn't. I would've probably kicked an elder who told me that he hoped I wouldn't be a burden on the congregation (oh wait, I have done that when an elder in my old Hall told me I was a burden on my dad when I was in fact supporting myself and no longer living under his roof ).
But I think that all our bad experiences and all our suffering has made us all appreciate the simplest things in life that most take for granted. Things such as thinking for ourselves and making our own decisions. It makes us stronger.
edited to clarify that it was my stepdad and not my dad. My dad thinks that all JW's are nutcases that should be locked up in isolated padded cells.
Shelly Former victim and recovering wonderfully from a broken spirit Smile, because we all have been freed from slavery!!
Honestly I think some of these people have such a low opinion of themselves that they have a subconscious need to tear good people apart in order to feel superior to them.
Others, on the other hand, are just plain daft and are in desperate need for constant "W" marks for "Tact" in their social interactions. When I was 8½ months pregnant we were in service when one such "brother" remarked "Oh Sister C...., I just realized you're expecting. And all this time I just thought you'd gotten FAT." I swatted him across the head with a rolled up Watchtower. I blamed my hormones. It felt good!
Love, Scully
It is not persecution for an informed person to expose a certain religion as being false. - WT 11/15/63
