Elderly JW sister calls me today, much different reaction than earlier call from Sister Naive

by SnakesInTheTower 5 Replies latest jw friends

  • SnakesInTheTower
    SnakesInTheTower

    After my phone call today with Sister Naive (see link here), I really didn't want to talk to any more JWs. I have written about an elderly sister in my old congo that calls me periodically. She is 90 and her daughter is 65, they still live independently in a small home. For awhile they had to both go into a nursing home, they were both back for a bit, then the 90 year old mother was back in the hospital for a few weeks. She went home last week.

    Sadly, very few JWs even bother to visit or call her. She just lost her son a week or so ago, yet very few from the congo sent cards or contacted her..not even family...all of which are JWs. So she calls me from time to time. I do occasionally call or visit, but it tears the poor sister up because I no longer go to the KH.

    She called today to talk. I told her straight up that my fiancee was moving in. The unexpected reply from this dear elderly sister: "I sure wish you were getting married first." I let her know that I was committed to her and that we would get married tomorrow if not for some financial circumstances that will clear after the first of the year. You see, it wasn't JW-land that was her concern, it was just her generation talking. My fiancee's mom (in her mid 60s) is the same way, wanting us to get married then move in. And this dear elderly sister likely will not share this info with the local elders. She realizes that she gave decades of her life to the Organization only to be shunted to the side in her time of need. So she is a little more lenient with me than she may have been in years past. Unlike Sister Naive (from my earlier post), Sister Elderly is genuinely happy for me, even if I am marrying a non-JW.

    Even if she does spill the beans about my new living arrangements, I don't care...what can they do to me, DF me? mwahahahahaha! whatever. The congregation of Jehober's goobers no longer controls me.

    Anyway, my fiancee wants to meet Sister Elderly, and Sister Elderly wants to meet her, so we may go down to her house next week for a quick visit. Sister Elderly was a stand-in grandma for me for years. I still care about Sister Elderly. No fair to yank the JW security blanket, tattered as it is, away from her. Let her have her final days in peace, though she may out live us all.

    Snakes (Rich )

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    Some good people retain their goodness despite the Watchtower organization. Yay for her.

  • kitten whiskers
    kitten whiskers

    That's nice that you still have your "grandma"! She is just wanting the best for you, as it should be! I hope you have a lovely visit...and come away with another treasure of memories!

    It will be nice for your fiance to meet her....I met my hubby's surrogate grandma (a neighbor from his childhood home). She was better to him than both of his true grandmothers put together. God bless her, she passed this year. I know she's in heaven enjoying herself and am so glad she got to meet the children. Though I only met her twice, she is dear to my heart for the way she loved my hubby and took him under her wing. I understand why your fiance is eager to meet her!

    Wishing you a wonderful visit once again!

  • snowbird
    snowbird

    What a wonderful lady, Snakes!

    I like to think of them as students of the old school.

    I met one at a place of business a few days ago.

    She just squeezed my hand fondly and complimented me on how youthful I look.

    Then, there's another one who drives by my house with her head deliberately turned away, nose high in the air!

    I laugh.

    LOL.

    Sylvia

    PS I'm hoping all goes well for you and your fiancee.

  • chickpea
    chickpea

    i sort of envy your relationship, snakes
    but am delighted to hear you and your
    beloved will be visiting your friend without
    guilt or shame being heaped upon you!

    the elderly JW who WAS the surrogate g'ma to
    my kids is widowed in the last 5 yrs, but utterly
    unapproachable, in that the party line is all she has
    left.... and i cannot abide it so there has been a
    traumatic amputaion of affection.... and i dont fault
    her for a minute.... over 60 years of living the b0rg
    has left her little in the way of non-judgmental capacity
    to simply enjoy the company of "those not of our kind"

  • parakeet
    parakeet

    Snakes: Sister Elderly was a stand-in grandma for me for years. I still care about Sister Elderly. No fair to yank the JW security blanket, tattered as it is, away from her. Let her have her final days in peace, though she may out live us all.

    Love and compassion between a JW and an exJW. So rare. So poignant.

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