Phase One: Facing Our Abuser...

by cognac 4 Replies latest jw friends

  • cognac
    cognac

    I think an important part of facing my parents is first writing a letter to my brother - who got it the worst. Then, I will talk with him and see if he would like to do this with me. But, first and foremost, he has to know how I feel. Below is the letter. Let me know if you think I'm missing something. I will give this to him today and hopefully have a talk with him tonight. I'll let you know how it goes.

    Dear ****,

    I just wanted you to know that you are my hero. I think about almost every day how strong of a person you are. Every day growing up, you were a shield to us. Every day, I wanted to protect you, but I was too weak. Every day, I try to forgive myself for not even trying to stand up for you. But you, ****, always stood up for us. You were the brunt of everything. You were the strong one.

    I just wanted to make sure you knew that. That you knew how much I love you and how sorry I am.

    I’m sitting here trying to figure out a way to let you know how strong of a person I think you are and how much I love you and what you mean to me. But, there really are no words. I just hope that somehow you can understand the gratitude and love that I hold and always will hold in my heart for you.

    Love Always,

    Cognac

  • boyzone
    boyzone

    Thats beautiful Cognac, just beautiful...

    How about adding that you'd like to talk to him and may need his help in something. This may prime him for your conversation.

    good luck

  • truthseekeriam
    truthseekeriam

    I think that's a wonderful letter and it will mean so much to your brother.

  • cognac
    cognac
    How about adding that you'd like to talk to him and may need his help in something. This may prime him for your conversation.

    Thanks for the suggestion...

  • cognac
    cognac

    Thanks Truth...

Share this

Google+
Pinterest
Reddit