so am i DF'd or what?

chickpea

the thread started by brainwashed-from-birth
about attending one's own DF announcement
has me giving a little thought to whether i have
missed the opportunity or not...
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/members/private/184141/1/Being-At-Your-Official-DF-Announcement

i have mixed signals from the members
of the KH i had attended for nearly 20 yrs...

some, including an MS, still greet me
when we see each other in public....
i will admit, if it is a case of me seeing
them first, i am as likely as not to do
a dodge... to avoid the awkwardness

but the ones to whom i had been close,
had at the BS in my home for 10 years,
including 2 younger women whose births
i had attended, clearly shun my sorry a$$...

(my response always is to touch my heart
and flash the ASL sign for "i love you"
and keep smiling! hubby has always said
"kill 'em with kindness; it'll drive 'em nuts!)

is there ever a formal notification
to the DF-ee from the DF-ers?
should i even care?

free minds want to know!!

Was an announcement made from the platform that you "are no longer one of Jehovah's Witnesses" or previously "disfellowshipped"? Did they hear at that meeting or did someone tell them? They elders are counseled not to give anything in writing to the df'ee so I don't think they would send a letter. If you didn't attend that meeting, I don't know how you would find out except by word of mouth.

AGuest

like you've been "marked," dear Chickpea (may you have peace!). Which is not [quite] the same thing (yeah, right!). Sounds like someone's "put the word out" that you are, perhaps, "bad association" and as such are to be... ummmmm... "watched"... and "association" kept to a minimum, if at all. BUT... my understanding (at least from the "talk" on marking some years ago), if it didn't come from the podium... it ain't "official" and folks ain't supposed to be doing it.

You could, then, speak with an elder and ask about it. If you haven't been officially df'd or marked, they usually give that "talk" to stop folks from "judging." Not that it stops anything at all.

I hope this helps and, again...

Peace to you!

A slave of Christ,

SA

chickpea

marked !

that seems the logical alternative...
thanks for that input, aguest...

bet the front page newspaper article
re: the lobbying i did in washington with
my (unbaptized) transgender son was
fodder for that gristmill!!

i havent been to meetings in
something approaching 4 years
so i not only have no idea of
what is going on officially in my case...
i also find i have forgotten the names
of so many people that i assumed they
would be forgetting mine as well....

had that disproved today when a guy
from the KH said hello, Xxx as we passed
in the corridor at the tech college...

it took me forever to remember
his first name, WHICH IS THE
SAME AS MY HUSBAND'S!! then
it niggled for hours til i could conjure
his last name.....

eventually, we are moving from this burg
and then i won't even know if i have
encountered a JW....

Finally-Free

If a JW says hello to me, which doesn't happen often, I'll respond and be polite, but I never say 'hello' first. Why give them an opportunity to reject me? It's not as though I actually had any friends when I was a JW.

W

so am i DF'd or what?

chickpea

blondie

AGuest

chickpea

Finally-Free

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