by highdose 4 Replies latest jw friends
according to a ex boyfreind ( jw) the way to look at someone your dating is to look out for all their flaws and then ask yourself " could i live with those flaws all my life?". I personaly think this is rather stupid, it totaly rules out love covering a multitude of sins, and dos not take in to acouunt the fact that you may have loads of flaws yourself
I personly think that if everyone assessed their partner like this noone would ever have anything more than a one night stand...???
Hi partygirl!!
Well, at some point you'd have to consider the "flaws" and reflect if you can put up with them or not in the longer turn (I wish I had been more careful abt that before getting married, but I was just "up in the blue" and ignored his "flaws")
I also think that if you spend a lot of time together in various situations your gut-feeling will tell you (that's how it's been for me while dating)
however, I don't think you should focus on the "flaws" and like you say no one is perfect, it's just a matter of what flaws you can live with or not...
my 2 cents
If you fall in love, you cannot see the flaws for a long time,even then you are inclined to minimise them. I suppose the best advice is have a long time together before totally committing , as a lot of modern couples do.
Not that JW's would agree, but how many unhappy marriages are in their midst ?
Love
Wobble
I don't think it's the worst advice, to be realistic about the other person. There is a difference between focusing solely on their flaws, and understanding that they actually exist, which too many people fail to do until well into the relationship.
sounds more sensible than getting hitched then spending the rest of your life trying to change them into the person you want instead of the one that you married.
