My parents may seperate after 42yrs:(

Newborn

My parents have big problems in their marriage and my mom is now planning to leave my father. I feel I have to be strong for their sake but I don't live near them unfortunately...we've been a tight family and it's very sad to see the family split after so long, but they have to do what they have to do...

I left my marriage and the cult last year, my sister treats me as if I'm dead and no man wants me...

Sometimes I'm so tired of having to be strong

It's a grey Sunday and I'm feeling sorry for myself

/Newborn

brainwashed-from-birth

Good Morning NewBorn Stay focused on the positive. Life throws lots of punches, and they always hurt. I dont know your story but I am sure you are a strong person if you left the JWs. And I know strong people end up in good relationships. Good things come to those who wait, and I am sure you will find what you are looking for if you keep looking. You are going thru alot and willing to reach out for help and encouragement. Go outside and meet someone new today

fokyc

Hi Newborn,

It's pouring with rain here and could be very miserable.

Sorry about your parents, mine split when I was 4 years old, I didn't find my father until he had been dead for several years.

He's in an urn, in the trunk/boot of my sisters car in Tasmania; thats a long story.

At least you have had a relationship with your parents, I didn't.

You are alive and have friends, cheer up and enjoy yourself.

Your OLD mate

fokyc

chickpea

hey mate! chin up...
tight knit families sometimes
unravel despite the best intentions

just recently, like a week ago,
i had "the conversation" with
my husband that officially puts
us on the path to permanent
arrangements to live separate
lives... sentimentaly sad but
realistically the best course ....

he has worked out of state for a year
and we both realize there is no going back...

we are better friends now than
we have been for years... and
because we have 4 children, our
paths will cross for the rest of our
lives.... we are both content with
the reality... no WAY there will be
a reconciliation, but i AM looking
forward to seeing meryl streep's
new film: it's complicated (aint it, tho!)...

we even talked about going on holiday
together when the economy and other
issues settle down to a degree...

dont despair! this is not necessarily a bad thing
for your parents to pursue... if there is reasoned
talk and generous intention

Newborn

Thank you your words help

OnTheWayOut

You are strong. You've been strong. You will continue to be strong.

I can tell.

That said, you can also be yourself. If you share yourself with your parents, not acting one way or another for their sake, they will be okay. If they had been together 42 years and decide to do this, they will find strengths within themselves to help you also. If you need strength from others, you can find it. If you need strength from your parents, you will find it. If you feel vulnerable, ask for help. Otherwise, strength to you.

Newborn

on the way out,

thanks

flipper

NEWBORN - I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. Please be assured of my wife and my unconditional love and caring. You are a good and loving person who will recover from these blows and be able to love again in your own life with a man who truly cherishes you for the good person you are - not what he WANTS you to be.

Realize that your parents have to live their lives- and you your life. Be loving and supportive to them , but realize you have your life and happiness to find as well. We are here for you sis. Sincerely, Mr. Flipper

twinkle toes

Sorry you are having a poopy Sunday.

Hopefully this is a new road for you. You may find you get to experience your parents in a new way when they are single. Now that my Dad is on his own he is kind of like a different guy. Turns out he has totally different preferences and ideas that my mom had. Not all changes are bad.

I know it doesn't change that bad feeling your having right now but in time you might find some peace in this.

cheers

Newborn

thanks Flipper and tt for your love

My parents may seperate after 42yrs:(

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