"B.F.F" -Witness love is not for free! We "love" worldly people! Yeah right!

by Witness 007 7 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Witness 007

  It's incredible how Witnesses cosy up to immoral worldly people who are possible converts...sure they smoke, live in sin, are homosexual, wear short skirts and lowcut tops but...THEY ARE MY NEW BEST FRIENDS!!!!!! Until after studying for 2 months they say: "Look, I don't want to be a Witness at the moment, but I enjoy your friendship......" Suddenly this new "BFF" best friend for life has flatlined! The Witness who brought them groceries, took them to the doctors office, drove their cat to the Vet has totally disappeared!!!!!!

  Typical Cult recruitment methods. Did you fall for this...I DID!
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  alanv

  Hook, line and sinker. I thought there was massive love in the org. until I dared to question one or two of their doctrines. Over night I lost my best friends. A friend and neighbour won't talk to me now as I dared to disagree with the gov body. And yet my son who has never been a witness and does the complete opposite of what a witness would do recently got a get well soon card from the ex friend. They are such hypocrites.
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  nancy drew

  it's because witnesses are on a time clock. the hamster wheel is rolling and theres no time for friendship unless you can count the time the secret is to ignore the directive to stop a study thats not making progress. I kept them as friends continued to count the time and never forced them to do anything now that I have left their the only friends I have except for my husband we left together and another friend who also left. It's not entirely that witnesses are cold and unloving it's the pressure from the org to play that game.
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  WTWizard

  This is part of the scam. They will promise to fix whatever problems a person is having, only to welsh on the promise as soon as the person is baptized.
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  snowbird

  At age 19, I fell for it - hook, line, and sinker.

  The desire to feel wanted, needed, and accepted is a powerful thing.

  Sylvia
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  Tea drinker

  I know exactly what you mean. I saw this conditional "friendship" all the time. Although I was a born-in I had plenty of non-JW friends. I was often counselled about my friendship with these people as they had not shown an interest in "getting to know Jehovah."

  As far as I was concerned they were my friends, not because they were potential recruits (something they made clear), but because I actually liked them. I did however point out to those who were "concerned" enough to counsel me that at least I was not a hypocrite, unlike them with their feigned interest in others. My statements went down like a lead balloon, naturally, but it certainly felt good to put these people in their place on occasion.
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  looloo

  i know what you mean , i experianced it also i had a pioneer "friend" who i studied with and she did loads to help me out but it was all based on me becoming a witness obviously , because when i gave her name to th police years later regarding the ex jw that abused my child (she had warned me about him when she thought he was after me and said she knew stuff about him ) she did not want to talk to the police and give a statement regarding that comment and the police told me that jws were not very helpfull to them !
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  BluesBrother

  Not to me, I was brought up in it but I saw it happen often enough...

  A young woman was contacted by the congo's super-pioneer couple. The girl was ok but lonely and nervy and a bit gauche. Super pioneers took her under their wing, took her shopping, had her around for meals, drew her into the group..she was really happy. She progressed and was baptized. Guess what? All the interest stopped dead ! She was hurt and then realised that of course they could not count their time with her any more - so it was on to the next project...

  She stayed in, eventually married and was ok ..but it sure proved the point of this thread