Jw couples

XPeterX

It is taken for granted that many (especially young people) in the org get married to have sex only to realise later how wrong was their choice.I want to say that a great number of married jws got bored and are unhappy with their partners.Am I wrong?

Hadit

You are not wrong. However, I am not bored - to much in life to keep me busy. Unhappy yes. Unhappy to realize that I got married for two reasons (of course at that time I thought it was love):

Get away from a controlling father & for sex. So instead I got into a controlling relationship and sex became my duty and so did everything else.

I'd say 75% of the people that got married when we did are long divorced. The WT does such an injustice to young people by making them live up to impossible standards of conduct and forcing marriage. You marry a stranger at a point in your life when you don't even know who you are.

It's sad and it's awful and has caused a LOT of heartache.

Coffee House Girl

I was wrong for getting married for sex and freedom from parental control, I was 19- I made the wrong choice, it ended in heartache and much pain.

palmtree67

I know one couple - truly tragic - got married and realized quite quickly they were not meant for each other.

Spent the next 30 years each praying the other one would die before the Big A.

They're still together, but very unhappy and are at least honest about it.

hoser

many sisters marry for financial security. Brothers too marry for this at times. It is a self fulfilling prophecy of trouble. No full time job- have no money to live on their own. No college education-have low paying job. Live at home with parents- if the parents are "good in the truth" they will treat their 20 year old like a 5 year old.

The way I see it most Jw's get married as an escape from domineering parental control or poverty and don't know the other person well enough to make a wise decision.

Jadeen

I can think of 4 young couples off the top of my head that married for sex, found out they weren't really attracted to each other, and got divorced.

I am so glad that I didn't marry a Witness. My hubby and I have been married longer than any of those couples, which makes me laugh.

Apparently there were a few people in the local congregation that were talking about how soon we were going to get divorced since he wasn't a Witness and I had stopped attending meetings.

Ha ha! Gotta love proving those idiots wrong!