I got an Invite to a DUB Wedding!!!!!!!

lydia

Well,,,,, not really - but the letter came addressed to my husband - my name is listed on the inside card. Its for my x-husbands nephew.. I think I might go to the reception (and only the reception - I AM NOT steping foot in a HALL if I can help it!!!! )- just to see the looks on the faces of those there - but more so for my nephew's sake.
The nephew is a pioneer and his father is a MS. I still occasionally talk to the mother too -( I'm D'Ad) I'd like to see the family and join them in this celebration... but I aslo want to avoid the stupid questions that are bound to come up - "what Hall are you attending now??" and such.

Has anyone else been in a situation similar to this??

How did you handle it??

Any suggestions on how to handle the situation??

Will Power

Last wedding I attended was in the same week I went to 2 funerals. (almost like the movie!) The funerals - not jw - way out-classed the wedding. The funerals were happy and feel good - they were old - A celebration of their life. The wedding was sombre in comparison.
The reception.
I was seated at a table of "politely invited but off-limits" people. One of the ushers from the wedding party gave a speech, obviously ad-libbing and happened to use the word love about 3 times. It was the first time I had "felt" it or remembered hearing it all day (in relation to the couple as opposed to kingdom work). I met him later, at the "pop" bar, and congratulated him on his speech for the reasons stated above and thanked him, he looked like he was hoping no one else had noticed and apologized, or maybe didn't want to be caught talking with me. Oh, and there were lots of pagan things around, bridesmaids, groomsmen, rings, cake, favours etc.

LB

When my son was married at the hall a few year ago he and his wife were asked if any disfellowshipped or disassociated family or friends would be attending. If so an announcement would be made at the hall warning people that such types may be attending. The bride asked her DFed cousin to stay away as she didn't want that announcement to be made.

If you want to go, then go and don't worry about it. Ignore the stupid questions if possible or give vague answers. But if you think it will be enjoyable, then go for it.

Never Squat With Yer Spurs On

yrs2long

I was in my sister's wedding party in 2000 at a kingdom hall and I had been inactive for 7 years. I sat at the wedding party table next to the bride at the reception.

David Gladden

I was able to attend my sister’s ceremony (at the KH) on the condition that I stayed to the side. When I showed up at the reception my dad told me that I would have to leave... something about having to "maintain unity" and not "eating with evil people".

drahcir yarrum

lydia:

A few years ago I attended a dub wedding for my neice. My non-JW wife and kids (who had never been inside a Kingdom Hall before) also attended with me. The wedding service seemed to be more of a didactic designed for the non-JW's in the audience than for the bride and groom. After the vows there was a lengthy prayer ad nauseum. In the car, on the way to the reception (no booze incidentally), my then seven year old son blurts out, "Who is this Jovagod guy anyway?"

I love a good JW wedding for a chuckle.

"Fat, drunk and stupid is no way to go through life son." Dean Vernon Wormer, Faber College

NeonMadman

You want my advice?

DON'T GO!!!

Here's what happened last time I went to a JW wedding:

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=12400&site=3

Never again! (At least I hope not...)

Tom
"The truth was obscure, too profound and too pure; to live it you had to explode." ---Bob Dylan