My father's wife

loosie

I hesitate to call her step mom. I was grown by the time my dad married her.

Just a little background to catch you all up. My father died the end of last December. His wife ordered a headstone from the VA for him. We discussed what the stone should read " beloved husband brother and father" Well memorial day came and I saw the stone, it only read " beloved husband and brother." That is how she ordered it.

Well now this woman is telling me she is having a garage sale. So I sent her a ist of items that I would like fo dad's before she sells them. one of which was his retirement ring that he got from a company that he worked for, for 25 years. I used to go to work withim and help load his truck when I was a little girl.

She told me that she pawned the ring 9 months ago. She didn't even ask me. She asked me why I didn't ask her for it earlier. How early was I suppossed to ask? he died 9 months ago. She pawned the ring less than 2 weeks after he died. She also pawned his wedding ring at the same time. ( I guess she really loved him) Was I suppossed to ask the day of the furneral for the ring? I went to the 3 pawn shops in town and 2 of them have no record of it and the 3rd one is out of business. She doesn't remeber which pawn shop it was.

This woman has got gall.

AudeSapere

That really sucks.

And I'm with you, I would not call her 'stepmom'. She is your father's wife. Just as I don't call my brother's new wife 'my sister-in-law'. That woman is just my brother's wife.

-Aude.

snowbird

Sometimes, I don't like us humans.

This is one of those some times.

Syl

loosie

I emailed her to see if she still has the pawn ticket. She read my email ( because I got a read receipt) but no response from her yet.

Doesn't that show a lack of being in mourning if you pawn stuff within two weeks?

crapola

Yeah, I'd say so loosie. She sounds like a real gem. GAG

nelly136

loosie, no matter how crappy she behaves the one thing she cant rob you of is your memories.

shes just the woman your dad married, no need to call her your stepmum.

Quandry

Well now this woman is telling me she is having a garage sale.

I am so sorry.

Unfortunately, I think that you should be early at the garage sale, with money in hand, if there is anything that you want that belonged to your dad.

After that, I wouldn't call her anything. According to the headstone, I don't think she sees you as fitting in anywhere.

I am sure that you can keep the memories of your father alive, without thinking of her anymore.

Broken Promises

At least you’ve been told of the garage sale. When my father and his second wife moved town, they had a garage sale and many things that my mother used, were sold.

My sister and I had no knowledge of the sale until I visited a family friend I innocently commented on how the bread bin in her kitchen was just like the one in our kitchen when I was growing up. She told me she bought it from their garage sale. What garage sale? I hadn’t known anything about it. What other family memories were sold? I’ll never know.

So I can completely empathise with you, Loosie. I know what you are going through. It sucks, it’s not fair, but all you can do is hold your head high, in the knowledge that your father’s blood runs through yours (and your children’s if you have any) and that’s something that woman can never take away from you.

(((Loosie)))

My father's wife

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