Shunning is an Unhealthy Practice even for the One doing the Shunning.

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  • I quit!
    I quit!

    Holding a grudge can be harmful to your health [The Dominion Post, Morgantown, W.Va.]

    June 27--Holding a grudge against someone may hurt more than just that person. By being bitter or spiteful, you could also be hurting yourself, too.

    Dr. Kevin Larkin, a psychology professor at WVU, is in the beginning stages of a research project that he hopes will link holding grudges against a particular person to chronic and stress-related illnesses. While he hasn't been able to carry out the full extent of his project because of lack of funding, he said he's learned that having a bone to pick with someone can be harmful to your health.

    "Even when people get over the grudge, they will sometimes go back and relive or revisit the grudge they once had," he said.

    Reliving the grudge can also cause chronic illnesses to worsen.

    High-blood pressure and chronic back pain are believed to be the two most common illnesses that are associated with holding grudges.

    "When someone does hold a grudge, their blood pressure may go up or back pain may worsen during the time period of holding the grudge," he said. " Sometimes you'll also see a diabetic's blood sugar level increase if they are holding a grudge."

    During the grudge stages, a recovering substance abuser is more likely to have a relapse, according to Larkin.

    Larkin said he plans to gather cortisol and adrenaline samples from participants during the study.

    "Cortisol and adrenaline are stress hormones that tend to do more damage than just causing chronic illnesses to worsen," he said.

    Larkin said even though he's still in the planning stages of his research, he believes grudges can play a huge role in declining health, both physically and emotionally.

    "The person is also better emotionally once they give up the grudge," he said.

    To see more of The Dominion Post or to subscribe to the newspaper, go to http://www.dominionpost.com/.

    Copyright (c) 2010, The Dominion Post, Morgantown, W.Va.

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  • Joliette
    Joliette

    Right on!

  • CrimsonBleu
    CrimsonBleu

    I have been DA'D for many many yeras and I actually have to shun my two witness sisters......I have to look at it as removing myself away from toxic people and relationships. It's a relief, and no stress at all.

  • Heaven
    Heaven

    My Mom told me this when I was very little. Her words were:

    "You shouldn't hate. Hatred serves only to destroy. It will destroy the person being hated and the one doing the hate." It had a big impact on me.

    Shunning is hateful.

    And I can attest to the negative affects this has had on my parents and our family as I observe the destruction the WTS has caused.

    Both my folks have suffered from depression and dementia. The WTS disables the minds of it's members. Once the mind is disabled, the body follows. The body cannot live without the mind.

  • LongHairGal
    LongHairGal

    It is unhealthy for those reasons and others. JWs are not entirely aware that shunning benefits the religion - not the person doing the shunning.

    Does the person doing the shunning imagine that a shunned person is going to come running to help them if they are in trouble? What happens if the shunner's so-called spiritual friends are not around when he/she needs assistance?

    This is where JWs are in a delusion. They imagine they belong to a worldwide brotherhood. And do they expect this so-called brotherhood to kick-in only when they want it to? Sorry. Life isn't like that.

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    There is one exception. If a person is so mean spirited that they are trying to ruin your life, it is usually less harmful to shun that person than the damage they are going to do you if you give them that chance.

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