My “fade” is going fine thank you….

by onemore 6 Replies latest jw friends

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  onemore

  WOW!! I never thought that it would be this easy. I was expecting a man hunt at the hands of the elder from my cong. But nothing to this date, only two phone calls in the last couple of months. I only miss some JW friends, but I can do fine without their company. Life is taking a whole new meaning; as a matter of fact, I’m even more positive and less uptight than before. I have goals, long terms plans, and new hobbies to explore.

  I still consider myself a Christian, so, on the spiritual side: I’m at peace with my conscience, my bible reading and studying is even more significant, especially since I stop reading the NWT and most of the society’s material. I even visited another church (just to feel that the WT no longer has a hold on my spiritual decisions).

  As an added bonus. Things at home are OK, just fine.

  Thanks for reading,

  Onemore

  P.S I still go to some Sunday meetings, and have ditched the weekday meeting. I read the bible with my wife and we study non-wt material in our family bible study night.
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  Lozhasleft

  Sounds like you're doing ok...

  Loz x
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  TastingFreedom

  Congratulations, glad to hear that things are going well. But don't sing victory yet, they may still come after you. prepare and be strong for what may come your way, but it shouldn't matter if you're adapting and evolving into a normal person without the cult.
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  badcompany

  That sounds great, TF! In retrospect, I sometimes wish I would have done the same. I finally snapped and went out in a blaze of glory. Now if I go into a KH (for memorials of family), the elders immediately huddle up. Equivalent of calling security. I can't help but smile. It's hysterical.
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  blondie

  We were ignored for almost 10 years and then suddenly during the CO's visit this year, the elders made a weak attempt. One tried to push his way into our house...not a good idea. But now we have our piece and quiet again. Just never discuss things with them, it's like tossing pearls to swine.
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  I quit!

  It sounds like the way you are doing it is working out fine for you but I think you need to be prepared for how you intend to deal with them if one day they do show up at your door step wanting to know what you are up to. As Blonde pointed out it can take years but all of a sudden there they are at your door step. I left very abruptly sending a letter to the WT and my KH letting them know exactly how I felt when I left. I even threaten to sue the Watchtower. Then strangely, I think it was about 15 years later they called me on the phone wanting to meet with me. Because I didn't trust them I agreed because I had to know what they were up to. They were offering me a chance to come back, no strings attached (at least that is what they were claiming). It was all very odd. Needless to say they didn't come up with a decent signing bonus and at any rate I certainly wasn't interested in putting my self through that again so I told them I still felt the same way, pointed out a few of my problems with the WT and they left.

  I don't remember the exact circumstance but I remember in Barbara Grizzuti Harrison's book on the WT she recalled being surprised when years after she had left she got a visit from the elders. It seems like it is just about impossible to get them completely out of your life once you let them in. Kind of like inviting a vampire into your house.
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  onemore

  Thank you all for your comments.

  I know that one day there will be that one (or two) elder or CO that will try to find out what’s the deal with me. The good thing is that as I’m building a life outside of the watchtower, I ‘m also loosing the fear of getting “caught” in my apostate activities.

  I’m having a good time; and the things that used to matter to me in the WT world, no longer take a place of priority in my life. Even when I get to go to the meeting my mind goes off-line.

  I’m just glad that I was fortunate enough to begin to fade (or face the truth) when certain things are still salvageable in my life, i.e. planning for retirement, getting an education, having children, etc.