dealings with one another in a human way

by TheLoveDoctor 4 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

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  TheLoveDoctor

  much of the way jw act is in connection to thier indoctrinization, their upbinging, personality, sometimes just not thinking before speaking and or acting and we could go on an on. my point is as a whole individualy most human beings are the same. And we are who we are because of the things we believe, accept, allow, and although we tend to judge others, we might not be so diffrent in other ways. As individual we should (I think) try to understand the individual and well hell that might take the time that we as individual are not willing to spend but if we did our thoughts might change. We should not group people not all men, women, kids, humans, jw's, catholics, baptist ext. ----companies religion or anthing else for that matter is alike in every way.

  I believe we should have more love, compassion, patients, understanding and thinking ability and any other fine quality u can think of in dealing with one another not as groups but individuals. I also hope to be better at practicing what I Just typed.
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  wobble

  As the Love Doctor, what kind of patients do you get, and what do you teach them?

  Patience is a virtue.

  I am not a believer, I am an Atheist of sorts, but I do believe in the Golden Rule "Treat others as you like to be treated" .

  the trouble with JW's ,is when their Cult Personality kicks in, the Golden Rule goes out of the window.

  Hypocrites and Saddos.
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  TheLoveDoctor

  I seem to be a fading witness and i think i understand were your comming from but that cult stuff effected me and manny kind and intellegent people of all walks of life and religion. No not all jw or anyone else is the same. though you have your own experiece and i respect that.
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  garyneal

  As you stated, it is ingrained in everyone of us. I was never a witness but I had a lot of their mentality. I think I indeed would've made a great one if the circumstances were right *cringe*.

  I think it is hard for most people to break out of their own little worlds and try to understand others before passing judgement. I've been trying to work harder at this myself.
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  Heaven

  Love Doctor... I do agree with you. It is how I have tried to live my life, not always successfully due to my JW upbringing but I hope I am getting better. The biggest hurdle is dropping the judgmental attitude. But my experience has shown me that love is the only thing that really works with people.

  Case in point is dealing with my bi-sexual ex-husband. He has many issues in life and I try to go 'beyond self' to help him as best I can especially after I realized I could no longer live with his abuse. When someone is coming at you with negativity, respond with kindness and positiveness. It is amazing how powerful creative energies can be in diffusing the negative energy.

  IMHO... the ONLY message worth anything from the Bible is the message of Love. With my JW family I have tried to show this. Recently, my Dad said to me that he didn't want to go to his meeting so I asked him why. He said he doesn't know the answers anymore. So I said to him "Dad, you have to accept that you've come to a point in your life where it's time to let others pick up these responsibilities. I have had to do the same. I am no longer young enough to work killer overtime, or shift work or oncall. I can't do it anymore. And I accept that. Maybe you need to do the same."

  I am not sure if I helped him but my goal is to be loving and supportive of him. Being judgmental does not accomplish this.

  As Stephen Covey advises... begin with the end in mind. What are you trying to accomplish in your relationships? Use the space between stimulus and response wisely to determine the loving, supportive, creative avenues you wish to take your exchanges with others and your relationships in.