My Dad Married Me....

by Englishman 7 Replies latest jw friends

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  Englishman

  It’s absolutely true. My Father did indeed marry me…, to my now ex-wife.

  Dear old Dad conducted the wedding ceremony in Waterlooville KH way back in ’68. It was so crazy. I had been engaged to another lady for around 4 years, but eventually the old hormones triumphed and we finished up doing the dark deed. A lot .So, riddled with imprinted guilt, we confessed all and were put on probation. That meant we were never, ever, allowed to be on our own together. Which is quite an odd way for an engaged couple to conduct a courtship. She was sent back home as a condition of not being DF’d, but we were allowed to spend one Saturday a month together under close supervision.

  Well, after about a year of this, the relationship began to falter, and the lady fell prey to the attentions of another fella who WAS allowed to be alone with her. Her JW father rejoiced and cleared the way for her to marry HIM. My JW father rejoiced too, because by this time I had also met another pioneer sister, Cindy, and we were also being rushed along into a hasty marriage.

  Cindy and I were married within 6 months. Inside of a month I realised that I had absolutely nothing whatsoever in common with Cindy, she was the daughter of a manual worker, I was the son of a professional man. Our backgrounds were so different that we couldn’t even agree as to how we should hold a knife and fork at the meal table. We just offended each other all the time. The only thing that we had that we shared, was our life as JW’s.

  Class distinction was still a part of English life back then, PO’s were usually from “good stock”, the R & F were the workers who answered up the line to their “betters”.

  Cindy and I divorced after 3 years and 2 children, we have both been ex-JW for about 29 years now. After being out for so long, we have actually managed to bury the hatchet, albeit for the sake of our 2 children so that we can be civil to one another at weddings and christenings.

  The sad part is that we should never have married at all. If we had not been JW’s we never would have!

  But, there again I would not have met Her Ladyship………….!

  Englishman.

  Hey! Now you are an outie, you can dance too!
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  ozziepost

  Eman,

  Isn't it strange how with all life's twists and turns, you can see good has come out of it all!

  BTW don't you have the class system over there now? What would old Charles Russell say? He'd have nothing to base his theology on!

  Cheers,
  Ozzie

  "It's better to light a candle than to curse the darkness."
  Anonymous
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  Abaddon

  I got married at 22 (hysterical laughter at the very dumbness of marrying so young).

  I got interested in the only eligible sister who wasn't a good little Pioneer, and who had been DF'd for being date-raped, and then re-instated after the baby was born. She was also older than me, by about 9 years.

  It was my first kiss, first girlfriend, and first major confrontation with my parents. They thought she wasn't suitable, and we got hassled by the BOE, to such an extent that, to make people fuck off and leave us alone we got engaged after seeing each other for six weeks, and got married six months after we started seeing each other.

  To cut a long story short, we too suffered from just being too different to get along. We foolishly though that having a kid together would make us a family, but it just underlined our differences, and we had another due to a split condom before we seperated and I left the Borg.

  I'm glad to say that my x is quite 'weak' as a JW, and my daughetrs, although at the moment being raised as Dubs, seem to either be uninvolved or (especially with the youngest) even dismissive of the beliefs.

  People living in glass paradigms shouldn't throw stones...
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  Frenchy

  I got married at 22 (hysterical laughter at the very dumbness of marrying so young).

  --I was seventeen, I guess that makes me dumber than you! LOL...

  --Oops, almost forgot my reply to Englishman: I married my daughter...NOT in the Kingdom Hall and, of course, despite what you people hear about Louisiana, I merely PERFORMED the marriage, I did not get married TO her! Just thought I would make that clear!
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  Duncan

  It’s absolutely true. My Father did indeed marry me…

  The SWINE!

  He always said he'd marry ME!

  Duncan

  (heartbroken and all alone...)
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  teenyuck

  I got lucky...I was still slightly overweight (Christie Brinkly was Super Model #1 back then) and no one wanted me....

  However, I was able to break the cycle in my family of marrying at age 18. 5 generations before me, not including my sister, got married by 18. Whew!

  The sad part is that we should never have married at all. If we had not been JW’s we never would have!

  That is why my sis married...and many JW aquaintences. Too bad, many uphappy marriages and lives. However, if you have children, that is lovely.
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  ashitaka

  I was thinking about this the other nite, when I thought about old friends who were miserable, but 'counseling' me to return to the JW's because it's the best place on earth....LOL.

  I WANT my old friends to be happy, but they continually make terrible choices based on what some old unhappy people say, on the platform, in the mags, etc.

  They want to equate sacrifice with happiness, but that just doesn't cut it. They end up sacrificing their lives, and to nothing. Not to God, not to religion, but to meaningless rituals, such as 'marrying in the lord'.

  I did get married young, but not because of pressure. That crazy love thing. I'm only four years into it, but I wouldn't want to live any other way. I can't imagine life without her. (Just throwing that in because this thread sounds like a marriage-bashing)

  Sweet, eternal virgins will continue to get married to terrible men, and unhappy people will continue to be wed. I wish the JW's would just get out of families; they can ruin so much so easily.

  ashi
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  Princess

  I was married at 18 to a 28 year old. My dad performed the marriage. We are in our 14th year.

  Princess