The reason you are encouraged told to participate is because for the R&F it's the only thing they can take away when you've been naughty. As it is deemed a 'privilege'.
Although we are told that 'participation' is a demonstration of our love and faith. Therefore what they are saying is that they are allowed to restrict our demonstration of our love and faith.
Interestingly 'cleaning the KH' is also deemed a privilege but you never hear of anyone with restrictions not being allowed to do so.