Why do they still hang out with me?

scooterspank

It seems unfair and a bit hypocritical that they would shun those that are disfellowshipped or disassociated, but I faded so no problem (though over the course of the past couple of decades I have committed a few disfellowshipable (is that a word?) offenses. Anyway, just seems odd.

Broken Promises

I'm in the same position, but then, that's how I planned it, mainly for family reasons.

I'd say the JWs hanging out with you don't agree with the df'ing position deep down, so they're glad to not have an excuse to shun you.

blondie

but I faded so no problem (though over the course of the past couple of decades I have committed a few disfellowshipable (is that a word?) offenses.

scooter, based on this, you're not df'd right?

I have been inactive for 10 years and some jws still have conversations with me. As long as you don't say something negative about the WTS or openly do something they consider a df offense, people will still have contact. Usually because they have something to gain themselves, monetary, emotional, or a spiritual coup/count time.

DesirousOfChange

I'd say the JWs hanging out with you don't agree with the df'ing position deep down,....

....but they are compelled to shun anyone who is DF or DA (esp non-family members) at the risk of being DFd themselves if they do not comply with the Org's rules. There are obviously SO many who disagree with this, as evidenced by the hard-core line now being taken about associating with family members who are DFd. The "necessary family business" loophole had gotten stretched to where you could throw a baby calf through it. Some years ago the direction from WT HQ was that it was a personal conscience decision as to what qualified as "necessary" business. To many people, ANYTHING qualified.

nugget

My sister was over from US and my Jw sister met up with her on several occasions going for a drink and coffee. My sister left the organisation before getting baptised did not live a JW life, smoked, celebrated holidays, was interested in the supernatural and yet she feels comfortable spending time. Yet because we are Df'd for denying that greedy old men in Brooklyn speak for God she will have nothing to do with us.

The JW mentality is laughable and sad at the same time.