Oprah reminds me of my passion

by Lady Lee 5 Replies latest jw friends

  • Lady Lee
    Lady Lee

    I just watched Oprah's last show. She reminded me of my passion. And that I need to honor it.

    When I was a Jehovah's Witness I think my passion was helping the people in the deaf group. My help went far beyond the interpreting at the meetings or going door to door with them. I was their friend in all senses of the word. I took care of their kids. I went to legal and medical appointments with them. I help them with funeral arrangements. I sat beside one woman as one died and I held her hand while her sister held the other and she took her final breaths. They trusted me and appreciated me in a way the elders or my husband never did.

    After I left and went back to school, I talked to and worked with women who were sexually abused as children. These were women who had been betrayed by the very people who were supposed to protect them. Some walked into my office and threw their trust at me not realizing what they were doing. Others held a tight rein on their trust. But once I had won it I treasured it and protected that trust.

    Then I moved and worked with abused wives. They followed the same pattern. Either they trusted indiscriminately or they held their trust back until I earned it. But with time they did trust and I honored that.

    I'm no longer working for a living. But the people on JWN, people who have read my website or read me on Freeminds or email me have all done the same. They have handed me their trust. Wow what an honor it has been to help thousands - yes I do believe it is in the thousands. What an honor that they have all trusted me. That is a trust I hold dearly whether it was 20 years ago or just yesterday.

    That is my passion - to help people who have no reasion to trust anyone but have handed it to me so I can help them heal the wounds whether they are physical, emotional, sexual or spiritual.

    Quite a few years ago I took on the care of 2 cats. One was a real people person. He loved every one especially if they would feed him. But the other cat was withdrawn. He hid when people came into the house. He hated to be touched or picked up. It took a year for me to be able to pick him up for as long as a minute. It took much longer for me to be able to pat him where he didn't jump up and move away. That is the cat that grabbed my heart. Not that I didn't love the other one but the trust that was hard won with this cat was appreciated and treasured. Seems to me that people are not a lot different.

    If there is one good thing I can take from everything that I have lived, is that I can turn those experiences around and use them to help others. I can't count the number of people who have posted here, telling their stories to strangers and hoping that their trust will be honored.

    Thank you for your trust. It is treasured. You all give me the opportunity to keep my passion alive.

  • jamiebowers
    jamiebowers

    Lady Lee, it's so easy to see your passion for helping others, and that's why you've been trusted by so many.

  • MrFreeze
    MrFreeze

    I actually like Oprah. Never watched her show but from what Ive read and heard she seems like a genuinely nice person who wants to help others. Impressive for being one of the most powerful women in the world. You seem like a genuinely nice person too Lee.

  • TotallyADD
    TotallyADD

    Thank you Lady Lee for all your wise spoken words. For ones like me born-in no childhood and abused you have help us sort out our feelings and also help us to make proper decision on what to do after leaving the cult. For one who was not educated to will your words and thoughts have help me in ways you will never know. I was always taught that trust was earned and you have earned every bit of it. Again thanks for everything. Totally ADD

  • fortis et liber
    fortis et liber

    What a beautiful post Lady Lee, you truly are a beautiful person, in every sense of the word. Like Totally ADD I too was a born-in and suffered abuse and have found comfort and joy in your posts. Thank you. ~ Fortis

  • Lady Lee
    Lady Lee

    Totally and fortis

    I hope you both find your passions. It is never too late. Oprah said something I truly believe. We don't have to do something that makes us famous or well known. It simply is something that you love.

    I had a friend on an old forum years ago who sculted wild mushrooms. She goes for walks through the forest and draws any wild mushroom she finds, takes picturtes and then goes back to the stuidio and creates her sculpture. They truly are works of art (see: Lorenzen sculptures)

    I knew Marca the daughter of the founders of Lorenzen who took over the business after her parents died. Their work was never started to make them famous. They were just doing something that they were passionate about. And they were able to pass this on to their daughter who is an exceptional artist in her own right.

    ADDED: I just discovered that some of these mushrtoom sculptures are just across the riber from me in the Museum of Civilization. Will have to go take a look

    A person's passion might be to help kids or the sick or to volunteer their time in a cause where people really benefit from the work they do. You might be passionate about learning or teaching. It doesn't matter. And if you do what you are passionate about it won't matter how much money you make from it or what fame it brings to you. Doing what you love is its own reward.

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