Eff my JW (former) family and freinds... Eff em all

by AZheat 9 Replies latest jw friends

  • AZheat
    AZheat

    I am sitting here writing this posting as a way of venting for all the frustration that I have been building up over the years of slavery to this Beast called the wbts..

    I was a born in, and was denied all the normal things in life, I always felt left out as a kid, and even as a young adult. I was the only jw for most if not all of my school years, I was harrased, mocked, teased, and even pushed around, because I was taught to stand up for what I beleive in. Th problem was, I didnt beleive it, I always felt there was something not right about the org. But as a born in, you are expected, if not bullied, into beleiving outright lies year after year.

    I have since been freed from the slavery and mind control of the wbts. However my freedom has come at a cost, I at one time considered it a "great" cost, but it has since been downgraded to just a "cost". That cost being, as you all know, is the alienation of all of my freinds and family (and I use those terms very loosely). As far as my relatives and freinds that are JW's are concerned, I am dead to them. I know that Jesus would NOT approve of the treatment that those of us, who were df"d for no good reason, have been recieving.

    I have 5 fleshly brothers and sisters, many neices and nephews, aunts, uncles, cousins, and even my own son who do not even care about me, they dont know, or even care if I am sick, or even deceased. My heart is torn apart by the fact that they would rather follow the BS org, who has continually lied to ALL of its followers, than to even inquire as to my well being. To all of you, and you know who you are, I have come to the decision that you are the ones that are "dead" to me. Your conditional love is as fake as the "generational overlap" propaganda.

    I have since made "real" freinds, ones that are not my freinds because of what I beleive, but because of who I am, its called unconditional love.

    It appears to me the JW's are no different than radical muslims who hate and want to kill anyone who do not share their beleifs. Instead of bombs, they use psychological explosives, that do just as much harm..

  • JRK
    JRK

    AZ,

    I know the feeling! All of my siblings treat me the same way as yours do. I have one family member that I care about, and when they have passed away, the rest of my family will die to me on that same day. Even if they decide at some point to stop shunning me, I will shun them.

    JK

  • ssn587
    ssn587

    Those in the org are very conditinal friends, no dtd no friends, no kotowing to the mindless babble from brooklyn no friends, lose a spouse in death and to them you are as dead too. The idea of true love just doesn't exist in their cultic universe.

  • ziddina
    ziddina

    [if you'll excuse an atheist using a religious term...]

    A-MEN, Brother!!!

    My family were and still are JWs - but I understand where you're coming from. My parents joined when I was 5, and I was bullied and beaten into the cult, too...

    How did I phrase it when I wrote that final letter to MY parents?? Oh, yeah...

    "If I had never had the misfortune to be BORN into your miserable marriage, I would NEVER have had ANYTHING to do with you!"

    Something like that....

    Congrats and welcome to the board!!

    Zid the She-Devil

  • rebel8
    rebel8

    You're right. Their love is fake.

    It was a heartbreaking experience for me to accept that too, but I am so glad I have.

    It's not painful forever. It gets better. No sense pining away for love that will always be unrequited.

  • Evidently Apostate
    Evidently Apostate

    Just what i was going to say Rebel 8. my family pissed me off for awhile, but after i began to except the fact that they are brainwashed i just stopped caring about the attacks. Now some of the family will talk to me and the others look foolish.

  • Coffee House Girl
    Coffee House Girl

    It is true that since we were "born-in" to JW craziness...we know the reasons behind why they shun us....we lived in inside the organization- hearing that shunning had to be done to show love-

    we know that in their misguided minds, they think they are loving us...but when we leave the org knowing what will happen...it still hurts when family/friends treat us like we are dead-

    I am going through the anger too- I am sorry this is happening to you...I chant with you "fu*k em all"

    CHG

  • clarity
    clarity

    AZ .......awwwww((()))... the arrogance of this cult is hard to take!

    How dare they have the gaul to interfere in people's lives!

    Who gave them permission to make the rules!

    I hate them!

    My mantra now is .....you ain't the BOSS of me!!!!!!!!!

    best wishes

    clarity

  • ABibleStudent
    ABibleStudent

    AZheat - I have 5 fleshly brothers and sisters, many neices and nephews, aunts, uncles, cousins, and even my own son who do not even care about me, they dont know, or even care if I am sick, or even deceased. My heart is torn apart by the fact that they would rather follow the BS org, who has continually lied to ALL of its followers, than to even inquire as to my well being. To all of you, and you know who you are, I have come to the decision that you are the ones that are "dead" to me. Your conditional love is as fake as the "generational overlap" propaganda.

    I have since made "real" freinds, ones that are not my freinds because of what I beleive, but because of who I am, its called unconditional love.

    Hi AZheat, I am sorry that you feel hurt from the con-Love that your JW family and friends have shown you. One of the greatest challanges that I know of is showing unconditional love to people who are strangers or that I feel have hurt me, but unconditional love involves turning the other cheek. I hope and pray that someday you will forgive your JW family and friends because they blindly followed the WTBTS doctrines. The WTBTS is very good at controlling how JWs think and behave - they have been doing it for 50+ years. I encourge you to send your JW family and friends emails (or cards) with pictures of you having a great time - besides it will drive them crazy that you are having fun and they can't. Just because your JW family and friends are shunning you, doesn't mean that you should help the WTBTS control the thoughts of another JW.

    Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

    ABibleStudent

  • jamiebowers
    jamiebowers

    It gets better with time. I'm coming up on 24 years of being shunned by my mom. In the meantime, I married a wonderful man and helped to raise his two youngest kids. I've bonded with my non-jw dad and his new family and made a large circle of friends. Best of all, my jw brother left the cult and is now a full fledged apostate. It took 18 years, but I couldn't be happier with the family and friends I have.

    Edited to add: My mom now has neither of her children and no grandchildren. I, on the other hand, I have two loving step-kids and four little granddaughters. My brother also has two step-children, and grandkids will happen eventually.

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