My JW friend and Silentlambs...

by Kaethra 9 Replies latest jw friends

  • Kaethra
    Kaethra

    I caught up with an old friend on the weekend. She's still a loyal dub but has had terrible marriage problems in the past (they've been divorced for some time now) and feels that she has been slandered in the congregation. She's also pretty wild for a dub...anyway, that's a discussion for another time...

    Over lunch, we got to talking about one of her friends (also a dub) and she mentioned that she is very promiscuous. I asked her if she had been sexually abused. She said 'yes, by an elder.' The elder has been disfellowshipped but she didn't know if he had been reported to the police (not bloody likely). As he has not gone to jail, it would seem that he was not reported. Then she said something to me in a shocked voice. She said she had heard at a meeting the other night something she had never expected to hear from the platform. She said that the "brother" counselled the congregation that there are pedophiles in the organization and that they should not trust their children with anyone. She couldn't believe it. Well...this proved to be too much for me to resist. I told her all about Silentlambs and the upcoming Dateline story. I told her that that was probably the reason for the announcement and she agreed that it was probable. I'm certain that they are trying to prepare the rank and file for this shocking exposé. I tried to be as neutral as possible for fear of alienating her but I couldn't help but get a few digs in about how the truth has to come out and how the borg has vilified the Catholic church over the same issue, and how the policies of "two witnesses" and not reporting abuse to the authorities has resulted in rampant child abuse in the org.

    So, I guess Silentlambs really is making 'em shake in their boots after all!

  • Ranchette
    Ranchette

    Kaethra,

    Interesting.

    Keep us posted.
    Do you think your friend will check out the SL website?

    Ranchette

  • Kaethra
    Kaethra

    Ranchette - I offered to email her the Silentlambs website but I got the "deer-in-headlights-that-sounds-like-an-apostate-site" look and so I backed off. Too much information too soon will frighten her, as it would any dub. I just want to make sure that the door is open in case she ever wants to question things. For a jw, she is very non-judgemental, no doubt from everything that she has experienced in the congregations herself.

    P.S. I made your spinach dip at my Christmas party this year...it was a smash!

  • Ranchette
    Ranchette

    Kaethra,

    I understand, you really do have to be careful.

    Someone else on the board (I don't remember who) was discussing how they were trying to deal gently with a JW so as not to trigger their "aposto shield".
    I liked that phrase because that’s just what it's like; an impenetrable shield, and we want to avoid going there.

    Maybe you can let her know the airdate of Dateline when you find out when it is.

    That spinach recipe is always a hit even with people who claim to hate spinach.
    Glad it was a success.

    Ranchette

  • JT
    JT

    aposto shield".
    __________

    i love it

  • qadreena
    qadreena

    can i ask what dateline is please?

    xxx angel xxx

  • Ranchette
    Ranchette

    qadreena,

    go to * http://www.msnbc.com/news/102168.asp?cp1=1
    and you will find out what Dateline is.

    There will be a Dateline TV show on the issues found at
    * http://www.silentlambs.org/

    Ranchette

  • Quasipseudo
    Quasipseudo

    bttt...

  • Kaethra
    Kaethra

    I'd really like to know if this announcement from the platform was just a local phenomenon. Has anyone else heard anything from their local KHs? Perhaps the "brother" on the platform in my friend's congregation has been surfing the internet and discovered his conscience?

  • waiting
    waiting

    Hello Kaethra,

    I'm assuming that it was a local statement made. I've not heard of anyone else who heard it - or heard of anyone else hearing it.

    Sometimes molestation victims are looking for like persons - it's something that most victims don't want to talk about - and even a total rarity for a jw female to find like persons in the KH. Very lonely.

    This might be an inlet to talking with your friend. Perhaps click her over the SilentLambs address - with the note that some of these persons are still jw's - like myself. And some of them were silent for decades - like myself. And then we found out we were Legion - and at least we began to understand our situation.

    It's very calming to the soul to understand.

    Nice to meet you - welcome to our board.

    waiting

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