The term "emotional icebergs" simply means that only a small portion of an emotion and reason for it are apparent. The majority is "below the surface", not known to bystanders and sometimes not even known to the individual experiencing it. If you notice a disproportionate emotional response to something, an iceberg may be the reason.
Destructive emergence of emotional icebergs ("shipwrecks") is a common pattern with ex-cultists. One common trigger for the iceberg's emergence is belief--being presented with new information that cannot be easily confirmed by personally witnessing it--feeling pressured to believe. Believe in something we're being told. Seeing others believe in what they're told. Belief is a trigger...
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