Have a new friend, turns out that she was recently DF'd

by TweetieBird 3 Replies latest jw friends

  • TweetieBird
    TweetieBird

    I live in an apartment community and several of us like to hang out at the pool and cook out. This girl that I've known for a couple of months was talking with my husband and me the other day about sex and marriage. She's going through a divorce and said that she doesn't believe in pre-marital sex. My husband asked her if it was a religious thing and she said yes but didn't want to say which religion cause she didn't want to give it a bad name. She was smoking and a little wasted at the time. I said "it doesn't start with JW by chance" and her mouth dropped open and asked how we knew.

    She now thinks of me as her new BFF cause I understand what she's going through. She still believes it's the truth even tho she knows it's f**ked up. She has 3 kids that are strong witnesses and 1 that's not in anymore so wants to get reinstated to maintain the relationshipwith them, plus her mom, also a JW, is going through cancer for the 3rd time. Been married twice (both to JW's), the first one was an alcoholic and the the 2nd one is gay, but hasn't admitted it to himself yet. She suffers from tremendous guilt and asked me how I got over always feeling guilty. I told her that I stopped believing it was the truth and it was easy after that.

  • maninthemiddle
    maninthemiddle

    I stopped believing it was the truth and it was easy 

    Good Answer!

  • puffthedragon
    puffthedragon

    That's awesome Tweetie, its so cool that both of you have found each other. I hope your friendship lasts a long time and you can help each other having had a similar background. I got a buddy I know personally on this board and we help each other too since we have someone to talk to about our experiences and what we have learned about the org. Sounds great!

  • Broken Promises
    Broken Promises

    Because she still believes in it, just be aware that her friendship will be conditional, and most likely, when she's reinstated, she'll drop you like a tonne of bricks.

    Sorry to be a debbie downer but it's how it usually happens unfortunately.

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