Unbelieving Mates or Dating "Worldlings"

by XBEHERE 3 Replies latest jw friends

  • XBEHERE
    XBEHERE

    Just curious if anyone here is or knows of individuals who accepted "the truth" just so they could marry a JW. How did it turn out? Are they still in now?

    I know of one case where a JW sister started dating a wordly man. Her family of course insisted that she either stop or he start studying. Eventually he studied, got baptized, they got married, he became an MS, she became a pioneer, he then became an elder....and all of a sudden she leaves him for another "worldly" person.

    To this day this former elder has not spoken to another JW, he essentially became "worldly" again and she and her new hub are back in the truth... TRUTH, lol makes me feel dirty to even say it sarcastically.

  • Coffee House Girl
    Coffee House Girl

    My dad got baptized to marry my mom back in the 1950's. Their first date was to a Kingdom Hall meeting (barf), he had to start studying with my grandfather in order to keep dating her. How did it turn out??? After about a year of marital bliss, he stopped going to meetings, began smoking again, and their married life was hell for 50 years. Six months before he died we talked about that, he was a sad man who regretted his decision....he said that he could die with a smile on his face knowing that I was out and never going back. I miss him so.

  • jamiebowers
    jamiebowers

    A jw man was the reason I started to study, but by the time I was baptized I believed it was the truth. I was only 17 when we married, and he was a dangerously abusive man. I stayed with him for almost seven years until he was forcibly committed to a hospital mental ward for the second time. I made a confession of adultery to rid him from my life and was df'd a believer. Eventually the truth about the "truth" began to sink in, then Barbara Anderson and Bill Bowen on Dateline convinced me that it wasn't the truth, and JWN taught me the many reasons why.

  • finally awake
    finally awake

    My uncle started studying because he wanted to date a JW girl. He got baptized, they got married, and he went to prison for neutrality during the early 1960s. They are still married - their 50th anniversary was in 2010. He's an elder, very active on the RBC. I don't really think my aunt is happy, she's in poor health and they don't have much income. SHe's not able to pioneer anymore due to her health issues, and all their children are dead. I don't think either of them really has any doubts, but neither really seem happy.

    The other couple I know, similar initial set up. Worldly guy interested in a sister, she won't date him unless he gets baptized. Difference is this sister is older - 30 rather than 15, and has two kids from her ex-husband. So he studied, got baptized, and they got married. He was made an MS fairly quickly, and then an elder. WHile serving as an elder, he got busted having an emotional affair with a coworker. He swears he never commited adultery, and his wife doesn't want a divorce. She's a stay at home mom homeschooling two preteens, and she really doesn't want to do the whole single mom thing again. They are still together, but he quit coming to meetings and he's grown a beard. I've heard that he told the kids he "doesn't believe it's the truth anymore", but I guess he backpedaled so as to avoid a DFing. As best I can tell, they are both miserable.

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