What was your experience in school as a Jehovah's Witness youth? What were some of your regrets and how did your peers treat you?

by adjusted knowledge 5 Replies latest jw friends

  • adjusted knowledge
    adjusted knowledge

    I was in the first month of kindergarten on the night my parents had their first bible study with the Jehovah’s Witnesses.  It was around October and would be my last Halloween, Christmas, and Birthday.  I cherished those last memories though I can’t really recall my last birthday celebration as a child. Others on this site had regrets as a witness, such as loss opportunities, education, and the pursuit of a career, I have been able to break free at a young age to accomplish those tasks.  What I can’t get back is the loss friendships from people I went to school with for 13 years.

    I went to a very small school system as a child.  My senior graduating class numbered around 43.  Most of these students I started school with at age 5.  I was never allowed to participate in any after school activities, even though elder’s children did band.  I was a pariah from the beginning.  I wouldn’t salute the flag or say the pledge of allegiance.  I was made fun of by teachers and made an example of.  This only solidifies the contempt my fellow students had for me.  I would be sent to the library for birthdays and holiday celebration.  I was a very skinny boy and had limited sports ability, but I could run and had great endurance.  I would’ve liked to join the track program, but my non-witness father wouldn’t budge.  He stated, “It’s too late because I didn’t allow your older sister or older brother do those things when I was studying, and it wouldn’t be fair to allow you”.

      In high school I was just treated as non-existence.  It is sad that being treated that way was an improvement.   During graduation I listen to the Valedictorian speak about how great it was for us to live in a small town and know each other and develop lifetime friendships.  I looked around to the 43 students on the stage and other than their name I knew very little about them and them the same about me.  The saddest part is I was patted on the back by a few of the girls in class that night and wished me well.  These were girls I sat by for 13 years and we never talked because they were taught by teachers, parents, and pastors I belonged to a cult.  It wasn’t until three years later I realized they were right!  

  • The Searcher
    The Searcher
    At least none of your fellow students tried to kill you for being "different"!!!  :(
  • millie210
    millie210
    Your story sounds sadly typical. Im glad you are free now. 
  • Billy the Ex-Bethelite
    Billy the Ex-Bethelite

    It's been a looong time ago, but there are still some memories.

    There were plenty of regrets and missed opportunities because of being a JW. I wasn't treated terribly bad, but it was enough that I saw 'the world' as a rough and unpleasant place. Unfortunately, it moved me more toward WT, the conditional JW friends, and the hope of the destruction of the 'wicked world' "very soon now"... back in the 70s, then the 80s. Then I made 'spiritual advancement' and went to bethel. Ugh.

    Over time, I've tried to put a positive spin on things. During those school years, I focused on studying (rather than having the right friends, the right clothes, the right extra-curricular activities) and was a very good student. Although I didn't get to go on to "higher education" then, I always valued learning and now have my degree.

    I also came from a small rural school system. Although some of my classmates kept in touch with each other and have stayed friends all these years. The majority of us went our different ways and didn't reconnect in any way until Facebook came along. In some sense, I don't feel it's just a matter of not having friends in school because I was a JW. I feel that the JW 'friends' I grew up with were superficial and not real friends.

  • Godsendconspirator
    Godsendconspirator
    I had a girlfriend who was real into me. I felt guilty about dating her so we broke up. Now shes's engaged. 
  • 1009
    1009

    I had a good JW youth. Got baptized when I was 14. Never had any problems with not celebrating holidays, did some occasional 'witnessing' to my school mates. I had a lot of friends at school and they loved to discuss religious matters with me. I laughed at them and they at me, and we mutually respected each other.


    The only thing I regret: there was this one girl I fell in love with when I was 17, and she with me. I really should have uhm... 'explored' our relation a lot more.

Share this

Google+
Pinterest
Reddit