My boyfriends Uncle just died this morning. It was his late fathers brother, and the only relative left on that side of the family. He is upset, but also trying to play the responsible role and not show too much emotion. Does anyone have any advice on what I should say or do. He said I could come to the funeral but he would understand if I didn't want too. Should I go. What role does a girlfriend play in this situation. I want to be there for him, but I don't want to smother him and make him feel uncomfortable. Should I go to the funeral or would it be ok not too? Please any advice is appreciated. thanks all
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by tattoogrl333 4 Replies latest jw friends
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Nathan Natas
Funerals provide an opportunity for the survivors to comfort each other. Let your heart be your guide.
"Love good, and do as you will."
- Nathan Natas, UADNA
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LB
At my age I've had too many funerals to go to. I can honestly say that just being there is enough. Don't worry about saying anything. When a person is grieving they seldom recall what was said to them. But you know who went, and who didn't.
Just go, be there for him and allow him and others to speak if they have the need. I know when I was at my parents funeral, I didn't hear anything anyone said.
You can do little things for him also that is a great help. Just clean up his place a bit if you like. Fix a meal or two. Any little things like that are really appreciated.
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siegswife
Hi! I'm sorry for your boyfriends loss. Is he a JW or an exJW? I just ask because if he's an exJW and you opt to go with him, he may be shunned if it's a JW funeral.
Anyway, I think that if you care about him, it would be ok for you to go to the funeral with him. Just being there with him, and maybe making small talk with other people, you know...just being there should be enough.
If he's an exJW, the experience might be a bit odd, but I'm sure there are people here that have some knowledge about that subject.
Lea
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JeffT
Hi Tat..
I'm sorry to hear of your boyfriends loss. LB put it very well. Just be available. Little things will mean a lot at a time like this.
Let your heart speak to yourself, and then to him. Listen when he wants to talk.
I remember you from when you were here earlier. If you want email me at [email protected] or [email protected] The first one is work, the second home.
Please give my condolences to your friend.
Jeff