My Wife & I Came Across our Niece in the street today....Am I shunned ? Apostate ? or not ?

by smiddy 4 Replies latest watchtower bible

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  smiddy

  It was quite unexpected , we were walking my mil`s dog when we saw my neice up ahead , after leaving a morning meeting oh ,theirs xxxx , ( what will we do ,what will she do ?) my wife who is a genuinely loving person , with good pr I might add , unhesitatingly welcomes and embraces her as a long lost freind/relative , my neice reciprocates ,saying" I miss you, I really miss you "to my wife then turns to me and says I miss you too uncle xxxx , and embraces me also , saying I miss you both . (reading between the lines come back to the meetings ) just the way she said it .

  A week ago the witnesses bypassed my house as they went d2d , ? , are my wife and self unworthy of a visitation ? OK I can understand I am maybe ,but not my wife ,but why then would my neice embrace us both ? We parted and a couple of doors up we crossed paths with her husband and daughter of a couple of years , exchanged greetings and pleasantries,and moved on.

  For the past 5 years ,my Jw neice has shunned her mother , her sisters (,2) one of which has had two babies since , her Nanna , who has had a stroke 18 months ago and is now in hospital waiting to die at 92 years of age, her uncle & aunt , her cousin and his wife , and the rest of her extended families . She has no contact with anyone of the family who are not jw`s which surprisingly is no one ......She just has no natural affection , and her witness husband encourages that attitude.

  Also, she had a late child which is about 2/3 years old now, she told nobody in her family about,her previous children are about 14yrs 7 12 yrs . aprox.

  smiddy
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  SafeAtHome

  Does she shun family who have never been witnesses? She sounds very cold and unbalanced and the husband does too. He sounds very controlling to encourage her to cut herself off from all family. I feel sorry for the kids, the older ones have to wonder why they don't associate with any family members. Hopefully their heads are not so full of such crap that the cannot one day break away from such an unnatural and unhealthy environment. You can only pity someone like that. Sounds like you have enough other "normal" family around you though.
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  blondie

  Well, it isn't official policy to shun NON-NEVER BEEN-JW relatives. In fact, jws are told to try and convert their relatives. How can they do that if they don't talk to them? The WTS has counseled jws not to neglect "spiritual" activities to socialize with non-jw relatives though but to stop all association.........? jws can be very judgmental even about other jws even going beyond the congregation standards. Of course we don't necessarily know the whole story...I stopped association with my jw relatives after years of abuse and some jws not knowing the whole story (and not entitled to it) assumed it was a petty reason.
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  smiddy

  SAH

  Yes she does,and that is her step sister never baptized , her blood sister was disflld ,when she was 14 for smoking , and then they just forgot about her for a few years , needless to say she never went back.Her mother only faded ,and she only lived a dozen houses away in the same street , with her mother of 90 years and never been a jw , and she never visited or inquired of her . even after she had a stroke and was hospitalized ,she has now partially recovered JW`s` children have had no contact with their gran or great granma either even though they lived so close .JW`s husband worked for her stepdad while he was screwing around with other women ,her stepdad that is. Yet she still had association and contact with him , oh but he was never a jw. (double standards ?)

  She was a premature baby at birth and their are some issues that I cant quite get a finger on , however I do sincerely beleive I was instumental in her adopting the religion and making it her own , but of course now it`s her country bumpkin husband who calls the shots.

  So I hope that answers some of your q`s too blondie

  I didn`t say anything about religion in our encounter ,because that would have caused huge problems with my wife ,she doesnt want me to engage in discussions with jw`s at the door or on the street. She hates confrontation ,you cant change them leave it alone,is her motto

  I hope this all makes sence

  smiddy