I just wonder sometimes if I got found out and got DFd for my views on the society, how would I feel? I often think to myself that it would be a huge relief, no more pretense! But then the other side of the coin is the family still in. The shock the tears the shunning. Did anyone here do that with success?
Anyone here get DF or DA as part of a plan, with family in? Was it worth the heartache?
by awakening 2 Replies latest jw friends
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clarity
Hi awakening................ are you scaring yourself?
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... just take one step at a time,
take stock of your own situation and start to make a plan.
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Ultimately it is up to you, but don't get ahead of yourself.
There is no rush.
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Reading the experiences on here, you can see pros & cons.
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Some wish they had taken a bit more time and some are
glad to just get it over with.
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Indecision ..... is in fact.... a decision.
So, live with it for awhile, before you "burn any bridges"
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All the best
clarity
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return of parakeet
I never DFed or DAed, but I told my dub parents I was out. My mother insisted I write a letter to the Society DAing myself. I told her I didn't owe them another minute of my time. For some reason, my mother never outed me, so I was able to stay in touch with her and my father throughout the years (34 years to be exact).
Two of my sibs and a close friend left soon after I did. So everything worked out great for me, but that's no guarantee it will work out that way for everyone.
Even if I had been shunned by all, I still would have left. Couldn't take WTS crap anymore.
Was it worth it? In every possible way, yes.