Hi, I couldn't get my PM function working. I just wanted to, now I have time, to respond to the five points you asked my opinion on:
1. Were they good and loyal who checked up on all the widows, fatherless or motherless or kids living with their grandparents?
I knew of a few, and even now I have a friend who visits sick people in hospital. I myself didn't check up on anyone because I was young and vain.
2. I remember how Witness kids with a parent showing doubts or with a disassociated or disfellowshiped parent, would receive the "stink eye' and were not allowed to join any of the Witness games (like Rudolf the Reindeer) or shunned until they quit attending Meetings too! This lack of love really hammered my conscience and I did my best to help but one person can only do so much when you have several families who need help.
Usually the kids whose parent was not regular didn't get much attention, and sat through the meetings bored out of their heads. A good friend of mine married out of the org, got dfd then reinstated and brought her two kids back with her. None of the 'spiritual' people had their kids associate with her kids.
I mentioned a bro I knew who took some teens surfing and skating and that after their father left their mother, but mother was a sister who was always at meetings and witnessing and had been in the cong for years. I notice when something like that happens to the ones who are in good standing, many rally round to help out with the kids. My last congregation did too, even if it was just baby sitting the littlies so mum could get her shopping done.
The kids who were irregular or showed no interest in the 'truth' though generally got ignored. I remember a teenage girl whose mum just returned to the org after years of being inactive with her unbelieving husband, and no one really talked to her. I always tried to though.
3. The big Joy was to take these weak kids out in Field Service, no need for Camping Trips, normal activities a dual family might do with their kids, Field Service and a donut or Happy Meal is the Watchtower's answer to fill this void!
Not necessarily. That bro I mentioned who took them out surfing, and others who invited the kids to do normal things. But not all the time.
4. You seem like you helped other sisters during their time of need, how many of these sisters are checking up on you and paying back all the good you did for them? Did they flee from you once you decided to take a breather from the high pressure, mental pressure cooking pot this Organization of guilt does to us all?
The sisters I talked to are in my old cong and don't know I'm inactive. Or if they do, have not called me or anything. No one in my last cong has contacted me except elders. I can't say I 'helped' any of those ones though apart from just being friendly to them at the hall. I used to have laughs with the teenagers but that was it. I sort of retreated into myself late last year as the inconsistencies kept piling up, and my health was shot. Also, when my husband was off sick for a few months last year caused me to miss a lot of meetings and witnessing. I guess my fade began before I learned TTATT because of circumstances.
So a short answer is probably yes, they did flee...
5. Is this the most loving Organization in the World and "Where will you go? You learned the Truth from the Organization, so who else out there has the crystal pure springs of water you would find in some stream in the Yangtzee Valley in China?
I don't know who else...the Org often says, and I paraphrase, "You should be grateful to us, because without us you'd know diddly squat about the Bible, so this is one of the reasons you should stay with us." But that would be like saying, "My grade 1 teacher taught me to read, so out of gratitude to her I should stay in grade 1 forever." Would you stay in primary/elementary school forever out of gratitude for it? No, once primary school has done its job, you move on to high school. Then once high school has done its job, you move into the workforce or education or further training.
So their saying, "Where else would you go?" is like saying to a primary school kid who's ready to graduate into secondary, "We taught you everything - maths, reading, writing, and you made so many friends here! Why would you want to go to high school?"
So where to go from here? I don't know. Independent Bible study. Call some churches to learn about them. I don't believe any have 'the truth' because everyone interprets the Bible differently. I would like to check out a local church, but not quite ready to broach the topic with hubby. After years of JW oppression, it's best to just stop and get some fresh air for a while.
Hope this helps bro!
xox
Julia