Hi Mark: Your earlier post to Larc did not really concern or bother me. I do respect you for making amends with Larc, holding out the olive branch.
Here is the key that I believe is at the root of many online debates that become flame wars ... where you stated above to Larc, "
"Apparently there is something about your demeanor that I don't care for."
My own mantra in communication is how people determine from written words the 'demeanor' or 'state of mind' of the author of a post. It is nearly impossible. In virtually every thread I have read or particiapted in where flames started burning, I see this at the root.
Not too long ago, Farkel and I had a negative exchange where this was part of the problem along with incomplete information we both had. We ended up emailing and then talking on the phone. We go back several years ... and the phone call not only surprised each other with how we were able to fill in the gaps, but that our impression of the state-of-mind of each other was markedly changed ... we solved the problem and improved our friendship.
Unfortunately, before a similar thing could take place on this forum a month or so ago, to flames burned out of control, and there was no solving any hurt feelings and misconceptions.
Thanks again for posting an apology thread, as this sets a better tone at an early stage. I hope the rest of us will be able to copy this standard in any future conflicts.
