Last week I received a wedding invitation in the mail from an elder's daughter whose getting married next month. Being on the outer social fringe of the congregation for 20 years and recently missing quite a few meetings, I was abit surprised to receive an invitation from her. The invitation is to attend the wedding(only) at the KH without a mention of the reception which I found out is being held at a separate private location afterwards. This is the third *wedding ONLY* that I have been invited to by some elder's kid without an invite to the reception. Well...WTF?? Am I supposed to feel honored by these invitations? I remember that the society wrote an article about this years ago saying that it was proper if the couple should choose to exclude some from their reception because of money concerns, etc. and that no one should become offended if not invited to the reception but the ceremony itself is the main focus. What a crock! None of these families had/have money problems. I think it is an excuse to exclude the inconsequential ones in the congregation and those who are not in their elite social circle. It also means that a gift is still required and gladly accepted since you were invited to the wedding. Is it just me or is this one of the most insulting and rude scenerios that they could come up with? Who wants to go to a wedding and then skulk home immediately after as most everyone else heads for the big party?? I think the lesser evil would be to simply not invite the person to either if they're not invited to both. I have never heard of another group of people doing this and I've never been invited to a worldly wedding and not been invited to the reception as well. What a bunch of snobby whacko's. Needless to say, I won't be attending nor will I send a gift. For all I care, they could have saved on the postage and bought an extra petit four for their *exclusive* reception.
Anyone else experienced this?