Oblivious to Father's Day

by Nosferatu 9 Replies latest jw friends

  • Nosferatu
    Nosferatu

    Hey all, it's been a long time since I posted here. Life's been having its ups and downs, but that's a subject for another day.

    Anyway, this year I thought it would actually be nice to spend Father's Day with my kid. His mom usually has him for Sundays and for past Father's Days, I didn't mind because he was still kinda too young to realize what the day was about. This year is a bit different. This weekend, she had asked if she could take him earlier because they were going to go fishing. I rarely have a Friday night to myself, so I agreed that she could take him. I had no idea that Father's day was this Sunday. So now I'm kicking myself for being so damn stupid in not realizing that it was this Sunday. I don't get to spend it with him :(

  • carla
    carla

    I'm sorry, what ashame! You could have had a lovely day celebrating Father's Day! Maybe we should send you reminders in the future? I will try and remember for you next year a week in advance.

  • new hope and happiness
    new hope and happiness

    You sound a great dad...i dont read a witness connection in your post? To witnesses fathers day is bad and all about pride, with you its a loving day...but its just a day...whats important is its about you and your son...my guess is kids are more perceptive than we think...my guess is your a father every day in your kids eyes ( based on having just read a few of your older posts )

  • alanv
    alanv

    To be honest as a loving dad you dont have to have a special day with your son, you can just have him as much as possable during the year. I'm sure it does not matter to him whether its fathers day or any other day, he will be pleased to spend time with you any time.

  • mrsjones5
    mrsjones5

    My kids and I love celebrating Father's Day and Mother's Day so does their father (he's never been a jw so the "we can celebrate Father's Day any day we want" rigmarole doesn't compute)

    The Story and Purpose of Father's Day

    "Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged." 1

    According to an article on the Holistic Living web site, "Sonora Dodd, of Washington, first proposed the idea of a 'father's day' in 1909. Dodd was inspired with the idea of Father's Day while listening to a Mother's Day sermon at church. She wanted a special day to honor her father, William Smart. William Smart, a Civil War veteran, was widowed when his wife (Mrs. Dodd's mother) died in childbirth with their sixth child. Mr. Smart was left to raise the newborn and his other five children by himself on a rural farm in eastern Washington state. It was after Mrs. Dodd became an adult that she realized the strength and selflessness her father had shown in raising his children as a single parent.

    "The first Father's Day was observed on June 19, 1910 in Spokane, Washington. At about the same time in various towns and cities across America, other people were beginning to celebrate a 'father's day.' In 1926 President Calvin Coolidge supported the idea of a national Father's Day. Finally in 1966 President Lyndon Johnson signed a presidential proclamation declaring the 3rd Sunday of June as Father's Day [for the U.S.A]. It has since been adopted by Canada, Europe and several other countries.

    "Father's Day has become a day to not only honor your father, but all men who act as a father figure. Stepfathers, uncles, grandfathers, and adult male friends are all to be honored on Father's Day." 2

    I wish it were true that every one of us had a father like Sonora Dodd had because, in spite of what many women's libbers and same-sex marriage advocates are claiming to the contrary, the role of a healthy, emotionally involved father (and mother) is critical for the emotional healthy development of both boys and girls.

    "According to Dr. T. Berry Brazelton [child development expert], a father's involvement with a child increases the child's IQ, the child's motivation to learn, and the child's self-confidence. In addition, children with involved dads are more likely to develop a sense of humor as well as an 'inner excitement.'" 3

    And for all fathers on this Father's Day, let us not only appreciate the love of our children—and grandchildren—but let us also realize the importance and responsibility of the God-given role we have been entrusted with in the emotional development and health of our children. http://www.actsweb.org/articles/article.php?c=3&d=2&i=1215

  • Mum
    Mum

    It is often someone other than the biological sperm donor who is a child's real father. Such is the case with my granddaughter, now 23 years old. Her dad died when she was a child. He never properly took care of her anyway.

    Since she was 4 years old, my son-in-law, i.e., my daughter's second husband, has been a wonderful father to her. He has accepted her and loved her unconditionally since that time. She has not always been lovable or fair to him, but he does not hold a grudge. He is still very supportive of her and very giving. He loves her 4-month-old baby, too. He makes me wish I had had a stepfather.

    Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there!

  • mrsjones5
    mrsjones5

    I agree Mum. Fathers are important biological or no. My mother was raised by her step-grandfather but she was his daughter and he was her father until his death in 1978. My husband wasn't raised by his father but his grandfather and uncles stepped in and taught him hiw to be a a good person, a man.

  • whathappened
    whathappened

    Sorry you don't have your child with you on fathers day. Look forward perhaps, to each others next birthday.

  • Satanus
    Satanus

    Make some good plans for next yr. There's christmas, too. Maybe, a birthday.

    S

  • Nosferatu
    Nosferatu

    i dont read a witness connection in your post?

    I was raised one from ages 5-18. My parents never celebrated fathers day. I really haven't had much of a clue when it is.

    I messaged my ex and she's going to let me have him for tomorrow, so I'm happy about that. :)

    It's funny how oblivious I am to holidays and even Christmas carols even though it's been 17 years since I've been to a meeting. It's like I can't unlearn how to ignore what holidays come when, and how to avoid lyrics to popular Christmas songs.

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