Who are you...real masculinity...

by new hope and happiness 6 Replies latest jw friends

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  new hope and happiness

  Who are you? male or female it doesnt matter, being a jehovers witness represented for me a true dehumanization of my male personlaity. Why?because my very masculinitu was defined by my watchtower spirituality and how i advanced in the organization.

  Now i have left the witnesses i feel more relaxed about my masculinity, that i dont need any longer to prove myself to anybody. In fact i would say that by leaving that authoritarian regime i have become more sensitive, more caring for both myself and others and an infinity more positive and worthwhile individual

  Question. Do you feel leaving the witnesses has made you more relaxed about your masculinity/ femininity? Are you now more sensitive and compassionate?
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  new hope and happiness

  ok no replys , so may be i wrote my thoughts badly...but as a witness i was abused by my entire social network in side that organisation...only with freedom do i realize the extent of that abuse..that abuse was respecting the organisation above my individuality.

  I was only any good as a witness,on the ministry and i realize i abused those friends i made by putting the ministry above my studies. When i left i needed support to help me ( this site has been great with knowledge and support ) but i had a lot of friends who really helped me by not giving a shit about the message of why i knocked at there door. ...and when i left it was great to have these friends.

  My point was we deliver a message and dont allow the individuality of the householder or ourselfs to be that message. When i left i found i was a man capable of humun emotions and friendships outside the organization. In fact i am more relaxed about my masculinity and feel i contribute more to society with out a message of right or wrong.
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  Glander

  If you have an erection that lasts more than four hours, contact your physician. Ask him if your heart is healthy enough for sex.

  Better yet, get a female doctor.

  Seriously, NewHope. The entire scheme of most organized religion is to exert control over the most intimate part of a humans life, namely their sexual drive. Remember the constant drumbeat "deaden your members (i.e. genitals) upon the ground" etc.

  Isn't it great to finally be a human!

  Best of luck, podner!
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  new hope and happiness

  Hi hi Glander...so my masculinity is basing my decisions on my own thinking, rather than information scare tactics.

  And as for my erection i noticed its really evolved now i can read the fictional stories in playboy rather than Watchtoer....i mean the W?T is jesus walked on water, yea right but those " real" stories i playboy yea Awesome....

  Seriously its gratto be free.
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  new hope and happiness

  As a witness my masculinity was giving jehover or the helders resposibility and accountsbility for my actions so my masculinity may as well have come from Cow Turds Heaven....
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  HarryMac

  There were some 'brothers' that were so obviously gay that it was painful to watch. Looking back I feel sorry for them and how unhappy the organization must have made them.

  For me, a bit the opposite, not trying to be too funny here.

  I was able to drop the "faggy 'I love Jesus' voice" and just be myself... you know, a man.... without coming across as somebody who hates authority.

  oh, wait.

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  No disrespect to homosexuals intended whatsoever

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  new hope and happiness

  Yea harry mac..thats my point, why should somebodys sexuality remain repressed? Why cant they be relazed about themselfs and who they are with out having to hide ? the society says a persons srxuality must be such to be spiritual accepted. This is wrong and fails to see the heart love compassion and value of a person...ugggg glad iam not in that thinking anymore. ... Shame on me i once knocked on on door and agreed people who practiced homosexuality were evil...that i said that helped me wake up and leave..