Different degrees of shunning.

by jam 7 Replies latest jw experiences

  • jam
    jam

    The act of shunning period is a terrible thing, but I have notice over

    the years some go to the extreme in shunning. Think about it, who

    are the ones that go out of their way to let you know you are being

    shunned. The majority of brothers I see or run into in stores will

    speak, ask how have I been, nod and smile. The sisters (majority) a

    different story.LOL

    The old lady and I was out having lunch, a group of sister were seated

    near our table. The wife ask, why are they staring at you? They are shunning

    me.LOL

    Now the funny thing about those sisters, my wife knew one of the sisters from

    our high school days. This one sister was odd in high school and became even more

    odd as a JW. She is considered odd but most JW's.

    Another extreme shunning. I'm in a club, a young man come up and introduce

    himself. Do you remember me, I was a young man when you left to serve in

    the missionary work. He told me his name and I remember, he was one of

    the young boys I took fishing. He had just return from serving in Bethel.

    This is the funny part, he was married and out parting. I told him I'm no

    longer a JW. He turn and walk away. And then you have those brothers and

    sisters who have been DF over and over again, they are the worst. These are

    the ones you meet out shopping, they will break a leg trying to stay clear of

    you.

    Trust me, in most cases where a JW is going to the extreme in shunning, they

    themselves have something to hide.

  • jam
    jam

    May add, I'm not talking about JW family members.

  • exwhyzee
    exwhyzee

    I've said it before. People like this are generally one close look in the mirror from completely "falling out of the truth" themselves and/or, for Sisters especially, it's the only little bit of power the organization allows them. They have the Society sanctioned "go-ahead" to be judgemental. They are not shunning you because they are sticking up for Jehovah, they are shunning you because it makes them feel extra virtuous.

    It sort of reminds me of how sometimes formerly overweight people are extra contemptuous of those who are currently battling their weight. It's because (IMHO) they know they are one slice of pound cake away from a food binge, themselves. They are lookin' in a mirror and they don't like what they see.

  • JakeM2012
    JakeM2012

    "May add, I'm not talking about JW family members." Jam I'm glad you cleared that up. I thought you were talking about my family. It didn't matter if you were an elder with wife pioneering, they would shun me because they didn't like something of me or wife. Go figure.

    I get a kick out of people all distressed about their family shunning, and I understand that all families are not the capital "dysfunctional" that my active family is, but seriously, my family have fought for 65 years now and it just keeps going. It was there long before me. For me, I'm better off without the family, it's more peaceful, it just peaceful, and quiet, and no pitiful shunning. Shunning works both ways. Just ask me if I have an extra kidney for my brother. LOL

  • Vidiot
    Vidiot
    exwhyzee - "People like this are generally one close look in the mirror from completely 'falling out of the truth' themselves..."

    Oh, yeah; I figured that one out a long time ago.

    Do you remember rumors of JW women who wanted to seperate from their husbands ("worldy" or Witness) because they were "endangering their spirituality"?

    Just about every one of them ended up leaving the WTS themselves, in the long run.

  • Narcissistic Supply
    Narcissistic Supply

    I abhore shunning. I will say this. I have some facial recognition problem that i always thought was a learning disability. Somewhere along the spectrum of....i dunno...visual auditory learning disabilities. (so i may be percieved as aloof or shunning when i simply can't remember where i saw the person.)

    But i can't recognize a face, or have a very hard time with it, if i'm not in the same context as i saw the person. If you put me in the same PLACE, I can recognize the person and remember a conversation. I can't remember faces if I see somebody two different places....

    I've heard of other people who can see a face one time. And never forget anything about the person based on that one meeting. That's not me.

  • valkyrie
    valkyrie
    i may be percieved as aloof...
    But i can't recognize a face, or have a very hard time with it, if i'm not in the same context as i saw the person. If you put me in the same PLACE, I can recognize the person and remember a conversation. I can't remember faces if I see somebody two different places....

    This describes me, precisely!

  • Kool Jo
    Kool Jo

    In my personal experience, the degree to which you're shunned can also depend on which country your in...some of the countries I've visited, the JW's will at least say a "morning" ect even if your DF'd. I guess it could be influenced by your culture too?

    Peace

    Kool Jo

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