Care to give some advice?

by SYN 6 Replies latest jw experiences

  • SYN
    SYN

    Hi, it seems like I've had the wool pulled over my eyes again I'm an extremely GULLIBLE person! *LOL*

    Someone who is quite closely related to me managed to arrange me a loan so I could buy a car from another person who is ALSO closely related to me last year, around February. The car was OK then (old Ford Escort, my first car). So anyway, we arranged the loan and everything, and then I got the car. No problem.

    Shortly after I got it, we took it to a mechanic, and he said that the steering rack was in danger of literally falling out, which would mean I'd lose all control of the car. This is a Bad Thing.

    So we got it fixed (very expensive, lots of $$$), and went off on our merry way. Now at this time, the carbarrettor (SP?) wasn't working so well, but I figured it would just use more gas and not hurt anything.

    A month after that, the HEAD GASKET blew (or so we thought). So we towed the car to my house, and left it there for a week while we arranged for a mechanic to come help us look at it. When we opened the head, we discovered that all four pistons had rusted against the side of the engine and were not moving. There was literally water all over on top of the pistons It looked HORRIBLE!

    Now today I found out from someone else that the person who arranged the loan for me actually loaned twice as much as I thought they loaned, and that I've actually paid off the amount the car cost, but I've been blithely paying them the usual (rather large, a significant fraction of my paycheque in fact) amount every month anyway, not knowing that the amount I had paid had already more than paid back the cost of my car.

    So what do I do? I love this person very much, and I suspect that if I stopped paying them this money every month they would probably get into a lot of trouble with their creditors. I'm in pain here, because I don't want to abandon them in their "hour of need", but I don't like the idea of my hard-earned money being leeched off me by anyone either!

    HELP!

    Seven006: "Have you tried drugs? Shooting up a little heroin might do the trick, it's hard to type when your stoned out of your mind. I don't know how TR does it!"

  • Simon
    Simon

    stop paying.

    If they deserved your love / care then they would not have shafted you like this.

  • SYN
    SYN

    I wish it was that easy, Simon. But I strongly suspect that if I stop paying they will get kicked out of their home by their landlord. They're basically depending on me for their welfare

    Seven006: "Have you tried drugs? Shooting up a little heroin might do the trick, it's hard to type when your stoned out of your mind. I don't know how TR does it!"

  • zanex
    zanex

    confront them...if they are decent enuff to come clean and fess up and ask for GENUINE help...help em..if they continue to hold onto the delusion that they have NO idea what u are talking about cut em off and dont look back...

  • Dutchie
    Dutchie

    One of the first things we learned in Law School was the Latin phrase, Caveat Emptor, or Let The Buyer Beware. You should have had the car checked out by a trained mechanic BEFORE you bought it. Of course, if you live in a state that has a Lemon Law you may be able to recover damages if you file a lawsuit. Buying from a relative is always a sensitive issue, but there are still remedies that can be sought.

    As to the loan, you absolutely cannot allow yourself to be ripped off. If you continue to pay the "loan" that is up to you, but I think you must confront that relative and let them know that you are aware as to the particulars of the loan.

  • COMF
    COMF

    If, in your own mind, you believe that their life and what happens to them is your responsibility...
    If you, the person wronged, are feeling guilt in this matter...
    If you're asking for help because you know quite well what you should do, but you haven't got the fortitude to do it...

    You're doomed. Give up. Live as a doormat.

    COMF

    Ah, love! could you and I with Him conspire
    To grasp this sorry scheme of things entire,
    Would not we shatter it to bits--and then
    Re-mould it nearer to the heart's desire!

  • SYN
    SYN

    Thx for the comments, ppl, you've given me some food for thought!

    Seven006: "Have you tried drugs? Shooting up a little heroin might do the trick, it's hard to type when your stoned out of your mind. I don't know how TR does it!"

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