I was thinking back to my conversation with my friend and he said several times that he was torn and thought about leaving the organization. He didn't address anything specifically and does not seem at all able to criticize the group in any fashion whatsoever so I'm thinking that it's an emotional response and not an intellectual one.
I think it's pretty telling that he can't bear to speak critically about the group. He's obviously not ready to take another look at the group itself and believes the blame for these feelings lays squarely on his own shoulders. If he has any specific reasoning behind his statements, he isn't sharing them at this point.
I was wondering if any of you heard friends or family members saying these sorts of things and if they acted on them? Obviously everyone is different but I was wondering if just verbalizing it is something considerable in your estimation or do witnesses say these sorts of things often?