The church cannot abuse a child for laws that the government protect a child from. If the government protects children under 18 or 16 or 14 from sex by adults, then that church has no business making the guilty adult the person protected instead of the child. TRUE the Maclaine-Hepburn movie The Children's Hour is about Children accusing two teachers of being lesbian until one questions her feelings and commits suicide, implying the damage a child can do to an adult by lying, but that doesnt mean adults are liars /children are not, or children are liars /adults are not. And we have a rotten court system in the USA whose attorneys get on TV and say both are always liars and that the judge and/or jury sees the 50-50. The point however, is that a child of 12 in america is not jailed for the sex a 14 year old had with them, or jailed because that child says someone 40 touched them. So if the church symbolily jails them, they have taken action against a child that the state protects. In such a case Jehovah is using the government to protect the child, he is not using that church. It says obey superior authorities WHO PROTECT YOU. This doesnt mean obay anything everything governments force you to do, it means government exists because it claims to CARE for the people, keeping them intact. So if the church protects the child and the government does not, then Jehovah is with the church. But if the government protects that child, and the church does not, then jehovah is with that government. This should answer how and when we should present our case as parents. The BIBLE DOES NOT teach that: Church is always right, government always wrong. The concept of not going to nation courts presumes if church is good, and courts are bad. But if the church is bad, let it be known that the temple of Jehovah was built by king Darius thru court letters sent to him signed long ago by king Cyrus, both pagan kings whose words are now written down as if they are Jehovah God's words.