I was Wished a Happy B-Day by a JW!!!

by teenyuck 7 Replies latest social entertainment

  • teenyuck
    teenyuck

    My birthday was Saturday. My mother called me on Sunday.

    Her first words were "hello my birthday girl". I reminded her my birthday was Saturday....she totally ignored what I said.

    However, she is sending me "a little something" to purchase Dr. Phil's newest book (she is a dr.phil and oprah devotee). And a card.

    I said I would think about buying/reading it. She said now that I am XX years old, I need to think about helping myself and thinking for myself.

    I just bit my lip. What is the point of reminding her that she is a JW drone. However, she is willing to celebrate b-days, mothers day, Xmas, etc. if the gifts are given to her. This is the second time she has actually gave me a gift for my birthday.

    I was really pulled between telling her she was a hypocrite and just saying thank you. I just said thank you.

    She is an interesting parallel. As kids, she totally rejected any idea of gifts for holidays. She would accept ours, however, she would never buy us anything. We got the old "everyday is your birthday....look at all the money we spend taking care of you.

    Now, I once every few years, send her a b-day card and/or gift.

    I honestly dislike my mother. She is so phoney and fake...this kind of thing just makes me mad. Suddenly, I am important. I don't buy it.

    Anyway, I had a great birthday with my husband and got a card from the MIL. That was nice.

    Opps, I put this in the wrong catagory.

  • outnfree
    outnfree

    Just goes to show that there are many Witness parents that wish they could shower their children with love on that special day.

    Unfortunately they all feel too constrained by the strange WT interpretation that celebrating birthdays can lead to death. [>:(]

    Happy Belated Birthday, puffsrule! And many, many more!

    outnfree

    It's what you learn after you know it all that counts -- John Wooden

  • Room 215
    Room 215

    Puffs, lurkers...

    How many JWs would have decided on their own that the observance of birthdays if offensive if not forced to think that way by Brooklyn?

  • outnfree
    outnfree

    Or.... maybe not! [:|]

    I read your post before you edited it to comment on your relationship with your mom.

    But I'm glad you had a nice B'day!

    outnfree

    It's what you learn after you know it all that counts -- John Wooden

  • teenyuck
    teenyuck

    Thanks outnfree...I hit enter twice as I was entering my info the first time. When I saw my post was not complete I went in and completed it.

    I think most dubs would celebrate b-days in a heart beat. I cannot figure out my mother. She is a total cheapskate. When she goes to a JW wedding, she finds stuff at TJ Maxx and will buy as many as possible...so she can give the same gift at the next JW wedding.

    Over the years, her "gifts" have all been TJ Maxx stuff. Last year I went on a cruise for the first time. She went to TJ Maxx and bought me about 30 articles of clothing to take with....only problem was that she bought sizes 2-20! I gave all of it to the local Goodwill.

    I have begged her to just go buy someone a gift certificate. She refuses. It will cost too much. I am amazed by her inability to determine that bad gifts are worthless. If you buy someone a gift cert they can get what they need.

    She is not poor by any stretch of the imagine. She is not wealthy (I don't think), however, she is very comfortable.

  • Yadira Angelini
    Yadira Angelini

    puffs, Happy Birthday!

    Your relationship with your mother sounds profund. I mean, years of desagreement.

    I'm surprissed of her inablility to communicate with you: she does not get it, eh? Should I imagine she is not a true JW? I mean, like the ones that naively believed everything told? I have an aunt who is a JW and acts like her. I feel for you and I'm truly sorry for the lack of understanding between the two of you. Love,

    Yadira

  • Flip
    Flip
    ...now that I am XX years old

    Happy! Twentieth Birthday, Puffs!

    Flip

  • teenyuck
    teenyuck

    Thanks Flip and Yadira.

    I am starting to believe that my Mom is a dub simply because she has no where else to go. She has destroyed all her family relationships over the years and at least the dubs are there.

    She is one of those dubs who does the shady stuff on the side all the while thinking that somehow God will know she has a good heart; in spite of her games.

    I do not believe she would make it thru Armageddon, based upon JW beliefs. And she does not deserve to.

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